Gratitude!! The first teacher itself gave a wrong direction

Are these scenarios familiar for a mother?
* I carried you for 9 months in my stomach, the constant aches, breaking backs, haywire moods, not cooperative father, having to do all the chores of the family.
* I took all the pains to grow you, the sleepless night because of your fever, making you umpteen delicacy till it suited your taste, smiled and begged you to eat even when this delicacy was not liked the subsequent time, remade another delicacy, made sure you got to wear all the best clothes even if we suppressed our desires.
* I have to stay awake till 12am waiting for the son to get home from work although he is married, so that his arrangements for dinner are met.
* I have to hand over the tea cup to the son or daughter first thing he or she sits with the newspaper.
* I have to make sure the son or daughters clothes are managed with the servant and are ready for him or her to wear.
* I have to hear my son and daughter say - this dinner is not tasty and see them walk away from the table.
* I do not have the option not to make dinner even though he or she does not even turn up for the dinner the previous two nights.
* I have to set aside all my priorities when my son/daughter was growing and in school just to get her to finish her homework first and hit the bed as quickly as possible.
* I had lot of financial problems but didnt let them burden my little ones mind.
* I used to eat the previous days meal, but made sure the daughter or son got to eat the fresh meal prepared on the day.
* I kept my desires to spend my old age with my son or daughter hidden so that the son or daughter could fly to the US to live his or her dreams?
* I have severe back pain or arthritis, still i do not complain carrying my sons or daughters kid in all the shopping malls.
* I am 65 years old and my son or daughter does not help me live life as they are busy working in the city, but still when they call for help as they cant manage their little ones, I make it a point to rush to their help.
* I am 65 years old and have reached that point of life where my brothers and sisters are missing me for obvious reasons. I cant keep visiting them as often as I have to take care of my son/daughter/son in law/daughter in law.

How many mothers would have made their kids realize the importance of Gratitude?
How many mothers would have mentioned the above facts to their kids?
Would the society accept a mother who mentions these facts to their kids?
Is it right for the mother to tell this to the kid?
Do we see one person in this society who lives life with Gratitude - Who thanks his or her father for being instrumental in raising the money for the family to live? - NOT JUST IN WORDS, MATERIALS, but in deeds, actions which need to be done daily? Its been quite fashionable for kids to use up their mothers for 364 days a year and gift them a trip or a good chain or to take them to the doctor on the 365th day. How does it feel to ask them to take rest 364 days a year, make food for them 364 days a year, facilitate them to make steps towards godhood? If only kids realize old age is god realization.

The list is going to reach the Sun trying to unfold itself. The list of items for which we should show gratitude to.

Cant help wonder why this selfish, ungratefulness nature of people has become so existent, so common. There are for sure multiple reasons.

I guess the wrong rules of the society has a major role to play here. It has despised and looked down upon a mother who teaches her kids about gratitude, giving her example with reference to the kid. This i guess has formed the foundation on which the kid has grown his ungratefulness nature. If the mothers could really have taught values of gratefulness we might have had hope.

If only mothers taught us the first lesson - the most important lesson that she has sacrificed a lot for us to grow up - only then I would have had a better foundation for being a better person. When this first lesson itself was taught in such a way that I was made to feel - "mothers are for sacrifice, please take them for granted, it is her duty", - I have gone astray. No wonder we see husbands taking wives for granted. Wives taking husbands for granted. No hope. The foundation is shaky.