The nights experience was new. I would have slept for 3 hrs and up at 2am for some reason. By 3.30am i was out in the open terrace meditating - chanting, counting, breath awareness. The night was wonderful with the climate just right for it to happen. The deadening silence with occasional flutter of the wings of some birds or the growls of dogs. All these made me smile with joy. When everything is a reason for celebration, everything just makes you smile. At times i got physically uncomfortable with non existent pains and nags. Yes i still have to go some distance. The feeling of intense awareness slowly started dawning, it was as if you where in full awareness of the immediate surrounding, as if its illuminated by a 1000 watt bulb and you were fresh in the moment observing everything.
Time went fast and cold wind started blowing and the mind realized it. I made a move into the terrace room by 5.30am and continued lying down in awareness. Not sure if i dozed off, but all through out this feeling of awareness was with me as if i was observing me sleeping. It wasn't the ultimate for there were breaks and movements and shifts.
Then moved on at 6.30am and took to a jog for 20 minutes. Finally it ended on top of the 45 stairs stadium and the meditation then too was different. Everything felt light and reasonless.
So far at 4pm, there is no signs of sleepiness or tiredness or frustration or tension. Everything feels silent.
The mind anticipated a sleepy observed and got the car to spend the afternoon in. The mind is wrong and is now reason - less.
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
My Child!
The child is a gift from god. Be respectful to the child... not just loving but respectful also. If there is not respect, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.
All the ideas follow after this. I will bring up My! child like this. My child will be unique, My child will have everything! The very parents who say this actually forget the one important question. Have I given my child the teachings of peace, bliss, tension free, frustration free? For these are the basic inner qualities of the human soul and hence the importance of enlightenment. So the story continues, My child will not marry a christian, My child will not opt for love marriage, My child is good, he will not do any wrong, My child will not lie (now the irony is - right and wrong are just of the mind. Otherwise how would you explain why Lord Krishna had 100 of Gopikas and that we call him Kalla Krishna, how would you explain the Shiva Tantra teachings).
And if you see all these happens because of the feeling of MY child getting magnified. Only because it is MY child. Simple observation, you cannot say my Neighbors child will be so and so. Atleast the present generation, so called learned crowd will not. We do see this also in the olden days, where society of Raja family decides that a girl deep down in one of the branches cannot marry a outer caste guy.
To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.
To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened. then it is a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk of it as a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk for their whole lives about how much they have done. A real mother will never say a single word about doing, and not only that she will not say: she never feels that she has done it. She has enjoyed it; she is obliged to the child. It is not only the birth of the child: simultaneously you are born in a new way, the mother is born.
All the ideas follow after this. I will bring up My! child like this. My child will be unique, My child will have everything! The very parents who say this actually forget the one important question. Have I given my child the teachings of peace, bliss, tension free, frustration free? For these are the basic inner qualities of the human soul and hence the importance of enlightenment. So the story continues, My child will not marry a christian, My child will not opt for love marriage, My child is good, he will not do any wrong, My child will not lie (now the irony is - right and wrong are just of the mind. Otherwise how would you explain why Lord Krishna had 100 of Gopikas and that we call him Kalla Krishna, how would you explain the Shiva Tantra teachings).
And if you see all these happens because of the feeling of MY child getting magnified. Only because it is MY child. Simple observation, you cannot say my Neighbors child will be so and so. Atleast the present generation, so called learned crowd will not. We do see this also in the olden days, where society of Raja family decides that a girl deep down in one of the branches cannot marry a outer caste guy.
To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.
To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened. then it is a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk of it as a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk for their whole lives about how much they have done. A real mother will never say a single word about doing, and not only that she will not say: she never feels that she has done it. She has enjoyed it; she is obliged to the child. It is not only the birth of the child: simultaneously you are born in a new way, the mother is born.
Remember to - Be Useless
So remember, if you ever try this solitary madness, drop the idea of utility. Be useless. Only then can you be alone. Because really, utility has been forced on your mind by society. Society says, ”Be of some utility. Don’t be useless.” Society want you to be an economic unit, a thing, efficient, utilitarian. Society doesn’t want you to be just a flower. No, even if you are a flower then you must be worth being sold. Society needs you to be in the market, you must have some utility. Only then are you of use, otherwise not. Society goes on preaching that use is the goal of life, the purpose of life. This is nonsense. I am not saying be useless. I am saying that this use is not the goal. You have to live in society, to be useful to it, but to remain capable of being useless at any moment. That capacity must be retained otherwise you become a thing and not a person. When you move into solitariness, aloneness, this will become a problem. You will feel yourself useless.
I have been working with many people. Sometimes I suggest that they go for three weeks or three months into total loneliness, silence. And I tell them that after seven days they will want to come back and their mind will find all the reasons for not being there so that they can come back. I tell
them not to listen to those arguments and to make it a point that for the time they have decided upon they will not leave. They say to me that they are going of their own will, so why should they leave? I tell them that they don’t know themselves. This will not be there for more than three to seven days; afterwards they will long to return, because society has become alcoholic, it is an intoxicant. In
sober moments you can think about being alone, but when you are alone, within three days you will think, ”What am I doing?” Remember, use is for society. Society uses you and you use society. This is a reciprocal relationship.
But life is not for use. It is non-utilitarian, purposeless, it is a play, a celebration. So when you move into solitariness to do this technique, be prepared from the very beginning that you are going to be useless, and enjoy it, don’t feel sad about it. You cannot conceive of what arguments the mind will bring. You will say, ”The world is in such trouble and you are sitting in silence here. Look what is
happening in Vietnam and what is happening in Pakistan and what is happening in China; and your country is dying, there is no food, there is no water. What are you doing here meditation? What is the use? Will it bring socialism to the country?” Mind will bring beautiful arguments; mind is the great arguer. It is the Devil – it will try to persuade you, it will convince you that you are wasting time.
But don’t listen to it. From the very beginning be prepared, ”I am going to waste time. I will not be of any use. I will simply enjoy being here.”
And don’t be concerned with the world. The world goes on. It is always in trouble. It has been always in trouble and it will remain always in trouble. That is the way of the world. You cannot do anything so don’t try to be a great world reformer, a revolutionary, a messiah. Don’t try.
You simply be yourself and enjoy your solitariness, just like a rock or a tree or a river. Useless! What is the use of a rock just lying there under the rains, under the sun, under the stars? What is the use of this rock? No use – the rock enjoys itself being that way. Just be a rock. There are rock gardens
in Japan, in Zen monasteries; they make rock gardens particularly for this. There are no trees in the garden, just sand and rock. A solitary rock, just sits there, and the master says to the disciple, ”Go,
and be just a rock, just like that rock. Don’t be bothered about the world. That rock remains there whatsoever happens to the world. It is not worried. It is always in meditation.”
Unless you are really prepared to be useless, you cannot be solitary, you cannot be in solitude.
And once you know the depth of it you can come back to society. You must come back because
solitariness is not a style of life – it is just a training. It is not a way of life, it is just a deep relaxation to change the perspective. It is just falling out of step with society to have a look at yourself, who you are, alone. So don’t think that this is a style of life. Many have made it a style of life. They are
in error. They are absolutely in error. They have made a medicine food. It is not a style of life, it is just medicinal. You fall out for a time being just to have a perspective, a distance, to see what you are and what society is doing to you. When you are out of it, you can have a better look. You can observe. Without being concerned, without being in it, you can become an observer from the hilltop,
you can become a witness. You are so far away. Unprejudiced, undisturbed, you can look.
So note it, this is not a way of life. I am not saying leave the world and become hermits somewherein the Himalayas – no. But sometimes leave, relax, be useless, be alone, exist like a rock, be independent, free from the world, be a part of nature – and you will be rejuvenated, reborn. Then
come back and move in society and in the crowd again. And try to carry that beauty, that silence that happened to you when you were alone. Now carry it, don’t lose contact with it. Move deep into the crowd but don’t become a part of it. Let the crowd be there outside you – you remain alone.
I have been working with many people. Sometimes I suggest that they go for three weeks or three months into total loneliness, silence. And I tell them that after seven days they will want to come back and their mind will find all the reasons for not being there so that they can come back. I tell
them not to listen to those arguments and to make it a point that for the time they have decided upon they will not leave. They say to me that they are going of their own will, so why should they leave? I tell them that they don’t know themselves. This will not be there for more than three to seven days; afterwards they will long to return, because society has become alcoholic, it is an intoxicant. In
sober moments you can think about being alone, but when you are alone, within three days you will think, ”What am I doing?” Remember, use is for society. Society uses you and you use society. This is a reciprocal relationship.
But life is not for use. It is non-utilitarian, purposeless, it is a play, a celebration. So when you move into solitariness to do this technique, be prepared from the very beginning that you are going to be useless, and enjoy it, don’t feel sad about it. You cannot conceive of what arguments the mind will bring. You will say, ”The world is in such trouble and you are sitting in silence here. Look what is
happening in Vietnam and what is happening in Pakistan and what is happening in China; and your country is dying, there is no food, there is no water. What are you doing here meditation? What is the use? Will it bring socialism to the country?” Mind will bring beautiful arguments; mind is the great arguer. It is the Devil – it will try to persuade you, it will convince you that you are wasting time.
But don’t listen to it. From the very beginning be prepared, ”I am going to waste time. I will not be of any use. I will simply enjoy being here.”
And don’t be concerned with the world. The world goes on. It is always in trouble. It has been always in trouble and it will remain always in trouble. That is the way of the world. You cannot do anything so don’t try to be a great world reformer, a revolutionary, a messiah. Don’t try.
You simply be yourself and enjoy your solitariness, just like a rock or a tree or a river. Useless! What is the use of a rock just lying there under the rains, under the sun, under the stars? What is the use of this rock? No use – the rock enjoys itself being that way. Just be a rock. There are rock gardens
in Japan, in Zen monasteries; they make rock gardens particularly for this. There are no trees in the garden, just sand and rock. A solitary rock, just sits there, and the master says to the disciple, ”Go,
and be just a rock, just like that rock. Don’t be bothered about the world. That rock remains there whatsoever happens to the world. It is not worried. It is always in meditation.”
Unless you are really prepared to be useless, you cannot be solitary, you cannot be in solitude.
And once you know the depth of it you can come back to society. You must come back because
solitariness is not a style of life – it is just a training. It is not a way of life, it is just a deep relaxation to change the perspective. It is just falling out of step with society to have a look at yourself, who you are, alone. So don’t think that this is a style of life. Many have made it a style of life. They are
in error. They are absolutely in error. They have made a medicine food. It is not a style of life, it is just medicinal. You fall out for a time being just to have a perspective, a distance, to see what you are and what society is doing to you. When you are out of it, you can have a better look. You can observe. Without being concerned, without being in it, you can become an observer from the hilltop,
you can become a witness. You are so far away. Unprejudiced, undisturbed, you can look.
So note it, this is not a way of life. I am not saying leave the world and become hermits somewherein the Himalayas – no. But sometimes leave, relax, be useless, be alone, exist like a rock, be independent, free from the world, be a part of nature – and you will be rejuvenated, reborn. Then
come back and move in society and in the crowd again. And try to carry that beauty, that silence that happened to you when you were alone. Now carry it, don’t lose contact with it. Move deep into the crowd but don’t become a part of it. Let the crowd be there outside you – you remain alone.
The inside is trembling, but they will go - if u meet it
Those who go into deep silence and solitude, they always ask me, ”There will be fear, so what to do?” I tell them not to do anything, just to live the fear. If trembling comes, tremble, why prevent it?
If an inner fear is there, and you are shaking with it, so shake with it. Don’t do anything. Allow it to happen. It will go by itself. If you avoid it – and you can avoid it. You can start chanting Ram, Ram,Ram; you can cling to a mantra so that your mind is diverted. You will be pacified and the fear will not be there – you have pushed it into the unconscious. It was coming out – which was good, you
were going to be free from it – it was leaving you and when it leaves you, you will tremble. That is natural because from every cell of the body, of the mind, some energy which has always been there pushed down, is leaving. There will be a shaking, a trembling; it will be just like an earthquake. The whole soul will be disturbed by it but let it be. Don’t do anything. That is my advice. Don’t even
chant the name of Ram. Don’t try to do anything with it because all that you can do will again be suppression. Just by allowing it to be, by letting it be, it will leave you – and when it has left, you will be altogether a different man.
The cyclone has gone and you will now be centered, centered as you never were before. And once you know the art of letting things be, you will know one of the master keys which opens all the inner doors. Then whatsoever the case is, let it be, don’t avoid it.
All different methods to trick the mind. So when i say this technique - this feels right and when i say Soham that technique feels right. But yes - above all Be Aware of what is happening within, search within if Soham is hiding something within? It was.
If an inner fear is there, and you are shaking with it, so shake with it. Don’t do anything. Allow it to happen. It will go by itself. If you avoid it – and you can avoid it. You can start chanting Ram, Ram,Ram; you can cling to a mantra so that your mind is diverted. You will be pacified and the fear will not be there – you have pushed it into the unconscious. It was coming out – which was good, you
were going to be free from it – it was leaving you and when it leaves you, you will tremble. That is natural because from every cell of the body, of the mind, some energy which has always been there pushed down, is leaving. There will be a shaking, a trembling; it will be just like an earthquake. The whole soul will be disturbed by it but let it be. Don’t do anything. That is my advice. Don’t even
chant the name of Ram. Don’t try to do anything with it because all that you can do will again be suppression. Just by allowing it to be, by letting it be, it will leave you – and when it has left, you will be altogether a different man.
The cyclone has gone and you will now be centered, centered as you never were before. And once you know the art of letting things be, you will know one of the master keys which opens all the inner doors. Then whatsoever the case is, let it be, don’t avoid it.
All different methods to trick the mind. So when i say this technique - this feels right and when i say Soham that technique feels right. But yes - above all Be Aware of what is happening within, search within if Soham is hiding something within? It was.
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Possession!
There is nothing worse than this that you can do, that you are capable of: reducing a being to a thing. And that's what possession is. Only things can be possessed; beings cannot be possessed.
You can have a communion with a being, not with a thing. Thats what we face now.. husband does not have communion with wife, mother does not have communion with kid, father does not have communion with son. Why? because it is not possible to have communion with a thing. The other has now become a possession... a thing. Hence the communion lacks.
The only sacred space in the true sense is the privacy of a person -- his or her independence, the beinghood. If you love a person you will never trespass.
They don't want the other person to have any privacy. Why? If the person has independence, privacy, individuality, they are afraid. The person tomorrow may not love them -- because love is not something stagnant. It is a moment, it is nothing to do with permanency. It may continue for eternity, but basically love is a phenomenon of the moment. If it happens again in the next moment you are blessed. If it does not happen you should be thankful that at least it did happen before.
Remain open: perhaps it may happen again -- if not with this person, then with another person. The question is not persons, the question is of love. Love should remain flowing, it should not be stopped. But in their stupidity people start thinking, "If this person goes out of my hands then I am going to starve my whole life without love." And he does not know that by trying to hold this person permanently in his captivity, he will starve. He will not get love. You cannot get love from a slave.
You cannot get love from your possessions; from your chair, table, house, your furniture, you cannot get love. So now it makes sense why we dont get love from someone you want to possess! Because you have reduced it to a thing. You can get love only from a free agent whose uniqueness is respected by you, whose freedom is respected by you. It is out of the freedom of the other that this moment of love has happened. Don't destroy it by trying to possess, by trying to hold, by creating a legal bondage, a marriage. Let the other be free, and remain free yourself. Don't let anybody else possess you either.
You can have a communion with a being, not with a thing. Thats what we face now.. husband does not have communion with wife, mother does not have communion with kid, father does not have communion with son. Why? because it is not possible to have communion with a thing. The other has now become a possession... a thing. Hence the communion lacks.
The only sacred space in the true sense is the privacy of a person -- his or her independence, the beinghood. If you love a person you will never trespass.
They don't want the other person to have any privacy. Why? If the person has independence, privacy, individuality, they are afraid. The person tomorrow may not love them -- because love is not something stagnant. It is a moment, it is nothing to do with permanency. It may continue for eternity, but basically love is a phenomenon of the moment. If it happens again in the next moment you are blessed. If it does not happen you should be thankful that at least it did happen before.
Remain open: perhaps it may happen again -- if not with this person, then with another person. The question is not persons, the question is of love. Love should remain flowing, it should not be stopped. But in their stupidity people start thinking, "If this person goes out of my hands then I am going to starve my whole life without love." And he does not know that by trying to hold this person permanently in his captivity, he will starve. He will not get love. You cannot get love from a slave.
You cannot get love from your possessions; from your chair, table, house, your furniture, you cannot get love. So now it makes sense why we dont get love from someone you want to possess! Because you have reduced it to a thing. You can get love only from a free agent whose uniqueness is respected by you, whose freedom is respected by you. It is out of the freedom of the other that this moment of love has happened. Don't destroy it by trying to possess, by trying to hold, by creating a legal bondage, a marriage. Let the other be free, and remain free yourself. Don't let anybody else possess you either.
Friday, July 8, 2011
Bring a child into this world? Is that all that is to be considered?
Abortion?
This will be a momentary sadness. If you want to become a mother then you want to get into deeper troubles, because it is not a question that can be easily solved once the child is there. I don’t think that you are ready to become a mother right now. But if you want to become one, that’s your choice, mm? — that’s your choice. But then you have to take the consequences also.
Otherwise, everyday it happens, some sannyasin comes with two, three children, and they want…. Now what to do with those children? — somebody has to take care of them. The mother cannot have her own growth, she cannot work; she has to take care of the children. And then there are complications.
Once you have finished your growth-work then it is perfectly good. A child should be a leisure thing, mm? it should be the last luxury. Then you can treat yourself by being a mother, otherwise it will create complications. So you decide. Nobody is forcing you, it is for you to decide: if you want to become a mother then you want to become a mother. But then take the consequences also.
People are not aware of what they are doing when they want to bring a child into the world. Otherwise they will feel sorry about that, rather than feeling sorry about an abortion. Just think of both the possibilities: what will you give to the child? What have you got to give to the child?
You will bring your tensions into his being and he will repeat the same kind of life as yours. He will go to the psychoanalyst, he will go to the psychiatrist, and his whole life will be a problem — just as it is with everybody. What right have you to bring a soul into the world when you cannot give the person a whole and healthy being? It is a crime! People think otherwise: they think abortion is a crime. But the child will find some other mother, because nothing dies. And there are many, many women who will be happy to have the child; it is just that you will not be responsible for it.
I am not saying not to become a mother; I am saying become a mother, but be aware that becoming a mother is a great art, it is a great achievement. First create that quality, that creativity, in you, that joy, that celebration, and then invite the child. Then you will have something to give to the child — your celebration, your song, your dance — and you will not create a pathological being. The world is already too crowded with pathological beings. Let some other planet suffer! Why this earth? In fact right now to think in terms of bringing a child is really criminal. The world is overcrowded. If a person has a little awareness, he will not bring a child into it at any cost; he will sacrifice his motherhood and fatherhood. The world is starving, people are dying and food is not there, the whole ecology is disturbed and life is going to be more and more ugly and hellish; this is not the right time.
And even if you think that it is okay, that the world will look after itself, they will find some way, you still have to think about your child. Are you ready to be a mother? — that is the thing. And I don’t mean by being ready to be a mother: are you ready to become pregnant. That is not being ready to be a mother; any woman can become pregnant. Pregnancy is not equivalent to motherhood. Pregnancy is a biological phenomenon. Every girl, a healthy girl, physically healthy, is able to become pregnant; but just because you can conceive it doesn’t mean you have to have a child. Just think of many other things: you have to give a psychological womb to the child, a spiritual womb to the child. Is it ready? If it is ready, if you think it is ready, go ahead: have a child.
I will start telling my people to have children, but let me prepare my people first. Then you will be happy to have a child and the child will be happy that he was fortunate to have a mother like you. Otherwise just go to any psychiatrist and ask ‘What are people’s problems?’ They can be reduced to one thing: the mother. You ask [the Primal therapist here tonight], you ask our therapists, ‘What is the problem with people?’ All problems can be reduced to the mother, because the mother was not capable of giving a psychological womb, the mother was not capable of giving a spiritual womb. Psychologically she was neurotic, spiritually she was empty, so there was no spiritual food for the child, no nourishment. The child comes into the world as a physical being, without a soul, without any centre. The mother was not centred; how can the child be centred? The child is simply a continuation, a continuity of the mother’s being.
You are young so there is no hurry. You can become pregnant again; there is no problem in it. But still, if you feel, ‘No, this abortion is going to be very bad for me’, have the child. I can only suggest, there is no order in it. Finally you have to decide on your own. Nobody can ever throw responsibility on me because these are just suggestions. Take it or leave it; that is up to you. And you are always responsible. If you take my advice, then you are responsible; if you don’t take it, you are still responsible. I am just outside it.
For me it is perfectly good, whether you become a mother or not is not a problem for me. But one should see all the implications of it. If one sees all the implications of it, very few people will decide to become fathers and mothers. And it would be a better world if fewer people decided to be mothers and fathers. It would be less crowded, less neurotic, less pathological, less crazy. Think about it. And don’t be worried, just think; there is no hurry. For three days think, and then come to a decision and do whatsoever you feel.
This will be a momentary sadness. If you want to become a mother then you want to get into deeper troubles, because it is not a question that can be easily solved once the child is there. I don’t think that you are ready to become a mother right now. But if you want to become one, that’s your choice, mm? — that’s your choice. But then you have to take the consequences also.
Otherwise, everyday it happens, some sannyasin comes with two, three children, and they want…. Now what to do with those children? — somebody has to take care of them. The mother cannot have her own growth, she cannot work; she has to take care of the children. And then there are complications.
Once you have finished your growth-work then it is perfectly good. A child should be a leisure thing, mm? it should be the last luxury. Then you can treat yourself by being a mother, otherwise it will create complications. So you decide. Nobody is forcing you, it is for you to decide: if you want to become a mother then you want to become a mother. But then take the consequences also.
People are not aware of what they are doing when they want to bring a child into the world. Otherwise they will feel sorry about that, rather than feeling sorry about an abortion. Just think of both the possibilities: what will you give to the child? What have you got to give to the child?
You will bring your tensions into his being and he will repeat the same kind of life as yours. He will go to the psychoanalyst, he will go to the psychiatrist, and his whole life will be a problem — just as it is with everybody. What right have you to bring a soul into the world when you cannot give the person a whole and healthy being? It is a crime! People think otherwise: they think abortion is a crime. But the child will find some other mother, because nothing dies. And there are many, many women who will be happy to have the child; it is just that you will not be responsible for it.
I am not saying not to become a mother; I am saying become a mother, but be aware that becoming a mother is a great art, it is a great achievement. First create that quality, that creativity, in you, that joy, that celebration, and then invite the child. Then you will have something to give to the child — your celebration, your song, your dance — and you will not create a pathological being. The world is already too crowded with pathological beings. Let some other planet suffer! Why this earth? In fact right now to think in terms of bringing a child is really criminal. The world is overcrowded. If a person has a little awareness, he will not bring a child into it at any cost; he will sacrifice his motherhood and fatherhood. The world is starving, people are dying and food is not there, the whole ecology is disturbed and life is going to be more and more ugly and hellish; this is not the right time.
And even if you think that it is okay, that the world will look after itself, they will find some way, you still have to think about your child. Are you ready to be a mother? — that is the thing. And I don’t mean by being ready to be a mother: are you ready to become pregnant. That is not being ready to be a mother; any woman can become pregnant. Pregnancy is not equivalent to motherhood. Pregnancy is a biological phenomenon. Every girl, a healthy girl, physically healthy, is able to become pregnant; but just because you can conceive it doesn’t mean you have to have a child. Just think of many other things: you have to give a psychological womb to the child, a spiritual womb to the child. Is it ready? If it is ready, if you think it is ready, go ahead: have a child.
I will start telling my people to have children, but let me prepare my people first. Then you will be happy to have a child and the child will be happy that he was fortunate to have a mother like you. Otherwise just go to any psychiatrist and ask ‘What are people’s problems?’ They can be reduced to one thing: the mother. You ask [the Primal therapist here tonight], you ask our therapists, ‘What is the problem with people?’ All problems can be reduced to the mother, because the mother was not capable of giving a psychological womb, the mother was not capable of giving a spiritual womb. Psychologically she was neurotic, spiritually she was empty, so there was no spiritual food for the child, no nourishment. The child comes into the world as a physical being, without a soul, without any centre. The mother was not centred; how can the child be centred? The child is simply a continuation, a continuity of the mother’s being.
You are young so there is no hurry. You can become pregnant again; there is no problem in it. But still, if you feel, ‘No, this abortion is going to be very bad for me’, have the child. I can only suggest, there is no order in it. Finally you have to decide on your own. Nobody can ever throw responsibility on me because these are just suggestions. Take it or leave it; that is up to you. And you are always responsible. If you take my advice, then you are responsible; if you don’t take it, you are still responsible. I am just outside it.
For me it is perfectly good, whether you become a mother or not is not a problem for me. But one should see all the implications of it. If one sees all the implications of it, very few people will decide to become fathers and mothers. And it would be a better world if fewer people decided to be mothers and fathers. It would be less crowded, less neurotic, less pathological, less crazy. Think about it. And don’t be worried, just think; there is no hurry. For three days think, and then come to a decision and do whatsoever you feel.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Samarpannam - a meditation technique
This technique works well when the burn is felt within. The burn - usually is a by product of ego, which is a by product of mind. When ego is there the burn has to be felt by each. Burn within may seem to be caused by various colors like revenge, emotional disturbance, argument, comparison, love (so called). People mistake these to be the reasons for the Burn. But on exposing the roots, the real problem appears to be the same mind and hence ego and hence these.
Start chanting a favorite mantra with full awareness. The mantra usually needs to give awareness of something before which you can stand exposed, before which you can give up, before which you can bow, before which you become insignificant. If it is OOm Ganapathaye Namaha, OOm Vigneshwaraya Namaha - the chanting goes on uninterrupted and with full awareness of the deity which should appear to dwell withing our spiritual heart center. Remember to keep full awareness on this heart center. The idea is a shift from the Head center to the heart center. As the chanting progresses mentally visualize the hand offering something from the heart center to the deity with an attitude of Samarpanam - ie Offering. This has to continue through the days. Feel a total offering of the heaviness at the heart center to the Superior what you have chosen.
Remember to continue this through the day. The more hours you spend in awareness of this technique, the more effect if brings. Usually observed is we tend to give up this meditation in an hour or so. So let the ego decide first that, I will do this technique for the whole of today. 'I' take it as a challenge. And finally the boat has to dropped like budha says. Once you cross the river, the boat has to be dropped. So finally as the mediation gains power, you drop the 'I' ness with awareness. Use the 'I'ness for killing the 'I'ness.
Start chanting a favorite mantra with full awareness. The mantra usually needs to give awareness of something before which you can stand exposed, before which you can give up, before which you can bow, before which you become insignificant. If it is OOm Ganapathaye Namaha, OOm Vigneshwaraya Namaha - the chanting goes on uninterrupted and with full awareness of the deity which should appear to dwell withing our spiritual heart center. Remember to keep full awareness on this heart center. The idea is a shift from the Head center to the heart center. As the chanting progresses mentally visualize the hand offering something from the heart center to the deity with an attitude of Samarpanam - ie Offering. This has to continue through the days. Feel a total offering of the heaviness at the heart center to the Superior what you have chosen.
Remember to continue this through the day. The more hours you spend in awareness of this technique, the more effect if brings. Usually observed is we tend to give up this meditation in an hour or so. So let the ego decide first that, I will do this technique for the whole of today. 'I' take it as a challenge. And finally the boat has to dropped like budha says. Once you cross the river, the boat has to be dropped. So finally as the mediation gains power, you drop the 'I' ness with awareness. Use the 'I'ness for killing the 'I'ness.
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