There is nothing worse than this that you can do, that you are capable of: reducing a being to a thing. And that's what possession is. Only things can be possessed; beings cannot be possessed.
You can have a communion with a being, not with a thing. Thats what we face now.. husband does not have communion with wife, mother does not have communion with kid, father does not have communion with son. Why? because it is not possible to have communion with a thing. The other has now become a possession... a thing. Hence the communion lacks.
The only sacred space in the true sense is the privacy of a person -- his or her independence, the beinghood. If you love a person you will never trespass.
They don't want the other person to have any privacy. Why? If the person has independence, privacy, individuality, they are afraid. The person tomorrow may not love them -- because love is not something stagnant. It is a moment, it is nothing to do with permanency. It may continue for eternity, but basically love is a phenomenon of the moment. If it happens again in the next moment you are blessed. If it does not happen you should be thankful that at least it did happen before.
Remain open: perhaps it may happen again -- if not with this person, then with another person. The question is not persons, the question is of love. Love should remain flowing, it should not be stopped. But in their stupidity people start thinking, "If this person goes out of my hands then I am going to starve my whole life without love." And he does not know that by trying to hold this person permanently in his captivity, he will starve. He will not get love. You cannot get love from a slave.
You cannot get love from your possessions; from your chair, table, house, your furniture, you cannot get love. So now it makes sense why we dont get love from someone you want to possess! Because you have reduced it to a thing. You can get love only from a free agent whose uniqueness is respected by you, whose freedom is respected by you. It is out of the freedom of the other that this moment of love has happened. Don't destroy it by trying to possess, by trying to hold, by creating a legal bondage, a marriage. Let the other be free, and remain free yourself. Don't let anybody else possess you either.
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Friday, July 8, 2011
Bring a child into this world? Is that all that is to be considered?
Abortion?
This will be a momentary sadness. If you want to become a mother then you want to get into deeper troubles, because it is not a question that can be easily solved once the child is there. I don’t think that you are ready to become a mother right now. But if you want to become one, that’s your choice, mm? — that’s your choice. But then you have to take the consequences also.
Otherwise, everyday it happens, some sannyasin comes with two, three children, and they want…. Now what to do with those children? — somebody has to take care of them. The mother cannot have her own growth, she cannot work; she has to take care of the children. And then there are complications.
Once you have finished your growth-work then it is perfectly good. A child should be a leisure thing, mm? it should be the last luxury. Then you can treat yourself by being a mother, otherwise it will create complications. So you decide. Nobody is forcing you, it is for you to decide: if you want to become a mother then you want to become a mother. But then take the consequences also.
People are not aware of what they are doing when they want to bring a child into the world. Otherwise they will feel sorry about that, rather than feeling sorry about an abortion. Just think of both the possibilities: what will you give to the child? What have you got to give to the child?
You will bring your tensions into his being and he will repeat the same kind of life as yours. He will go to the psychoanalyst, he will go to the psychiatrist, and his whole life will be a problem — just as it is with everybody. What right have you to bring a soul into the world when you cannot give the person a whole and healthy being? It is a crime! People think otherwise: they think abortion is a crime. But the child will find some other mother, because nothing dies. And there are many, many women who will be happy to have the child; it is just that you will not be responsible for it.
I am not saying not to become a mother; I am saying become a mother, but be aware that becoming a mother is a great art, it is a great achievement. First create that quality, that creativity, in you, that joy, that celebration, and then invite the child. Then you will have something to give to the child — your celebration, your song, your dance — and you will not create a pathological being. The world is already too crowded with pathological beings. Let some other planet suffer! Why this earth? In fact right now to think in terms of bringing a child is really criminal. The world is overcrowded. If a person has a little awareness, he will not bring a child into it at any cost; he will sacrifice his motherhood and fatherhood. The world is starving, people are dying and food is not there, the whole ecology is disturbed and life is going to be more and more ugly and hellish; this is not the right time.
And even if you think that it is okay, that the world will look after itself, they will find some way, you still have to think about your child. Are you ready to be a mother? — that is the thing. And I don’t mean by being ready to be a mother: are you ready to become pregnant. That is not being ready to be a mother; any woman can become pregnant. Pregnancy is not equivalent to motherhood. Pregnancy is a biological phenomenon. Every girl, a healthy girl, physically healthy, is able to become pregnant; but just because you can conceive it doesn’t mean you have to have a child. Just think of many other things: you have to give a psychological womb to the child, a spiritual womb to the child. Is it ready? If it is ready, if you think it is ready, go ahead: have a child.
I will start telling my people to have children, but let me prepare my people first. Then you will be happy to have a child and the child will be happy that he was fortunate to have a mother like you. Otherwise just go to any psychiatrist and ask ‘What are people’s problems?’ They can be reduced to one thing: the mother. You ask [the Primal therapist here tonight], you ask our therapists, ‘What is the problem with people?’ All problems can be reduced to the mother, because the mother was not capable of giving a psychological womb, the mother was not capable of giving a spiritual womb. Psychologically she was neurotic, spiritually she was empty, so there was no spiritual food for the child, no nourishment. The child comes into the world as a physical being, without a soul, without any centre. The mother was not centred; how can the child be centred? The child is simply a continuation, a continuity of the mother’s being.
You are young so there is no hurry. You can become pregnant again; there is no problem in it. But still, if you feel, ‘No, this abortion is going to be very bad for me’, have the child. I can only suggest, there is no order in it. Finally you have to decide on your own. Nobody can ever throw responsibility on me because these are just suggestions. Take it or leave it; that is up to you. And you are always responsible. If you take my advice, then you are responsible; if you don’t take it, you are still responsible. I am just outside it.
For me it is perfectly good, whether you become a mother or not is not a problem for me. But one should see all the implications of it. If one sees all the implications of it, very few people will decide to become fathers and mothers. And it would be a better world if fewer people decided to be mothers and fathers. It would be less crowded, less neurotic, less pathological, less crazy. Think about it. And don’t be worried, just think; there is no hurry. For three days think, and then come to a decision and do whatsoever you feel.
This will be a momentary sadness. If you want to become a mother then you want to get into deeper troubles, because it is not a question that can be easily solved once the child is there. I don’t think that you are ready to become a mother right now. But if you want to become one, that’s your choice, mm? — that’s your choice. But then you have to take the consequences also.
Otherwise, everyday it happens, some sannyasin comes with two, three children, and they want…. Now what to do with those children? — somebody has to take care of them. The mother cannot have her own growth, she cannot work; she has to take care of the children. And then there are complications.
Once you have finished your growth-work then it is perfectly good. A child should be a leisure thing, mm? it should be the last luxury. Then you can treat yourself by being a mother, otherwise it will create complications. So you decide. Nobody is forcing you, it is for you to decide: if you want to become a mother then you want to become a mother. But then take the consequences also.
People are not aware of what they are doing when they want to bring a child into the world. Otherwise they will feel sorry about that, rather than feeling sorry about an abortion. Just think of both the possibilities: what will you give to the child? What have you got to give to the child?
You will bring your tensions into his being and he will repeat the same kind of life as yours. He will go to the psychoanalyst, he will go to the psychiatrist, and his whole life will be a problem — just as it is with everybody. What right have you to bring a soul into the world when you cannot give the person a whole and healthy being? It is a crime! People think otherwise: they think abortion is a crime. But the child will find some other mother, because nothing dies. And there are many, many women who will be happy to have the child; it is just that you will not be responsible for it.
I am not saying not to become a mother; I am saying become a mother, but be aware that becoming a mother is a great art, it is a great achievement. First create that quality, that creativity, in you, that joy, that celebration, and then invite the child. Then you will have something to give to the child — your celebration, your song, your dance — and you will not create a pathological being. The world is already too crowded with pathological beings. Let some other planet suffer! Why this earth? In fact right now to think in terms of bringing a child is really criminal. The world is overcrowded. If a person has a little awareness, he will not bring a child into it at any cost; he will sacrifice his motherhood and fatherhood. The world is starving, people are dying and food is not there, the whole ecology is disturbed and life is going to be more and more ugly and hellish; this is not the right time.
And even if you think that it is okay, that the world will look after itself, they will find some way, you still have to think about your child. Are you ready to be a mother? — that is the thing. And I don’t mean by being ready to be a mother: are you ready to become pregnant. That is not being ready to be a mother; any woman can become pregnant. Pregnancy is not equivalent to motherhood. Pregnancy is a biological phenomenon. Every girl, a healthy girl, physically healthy, is able to become pregnant; but just because you can conceive it doesn’t mean you have to have a child. Just think of many other things: you have to give a psychological womb to the child, a spiritual womb to the child. Is it ready? If it is ready, if you think it is ready, go ahead: have a child.
I will start telling my people to have children, but let me prepare my people first. Then you will be happy to have a child and the child will be happy that he was fortunate to have a mother like you. Otherwise just go to any psychiatrist and ask ‘What are people’s problems?’ They can be reduced to one thing: the mother. You ask [the Primal therapist here tonight], you ask our therapists, ‘What is the problem with people?’ All problems can be reduced to the mother, because the mother was not capable of giving a psychological womb, the mother was not capable of giving a spiritual womb. Psychologically she was neurotic, spiritually she was empty, so there was no spiritual food for the child, no nourishment. The child comes into the world as a physical being, without a soul, without any centre. The mother was not centred; how can the child be centred? The child is simply a continuation, a continuity of the mother’s being.
You are young so there is no hurry. You can become pregnant again; there is no problem in it. But still, if you feel, ‘No, this abortion is going to be very bad for me’, have the child. I can only suggest, there is no order in it. Finally you have to decide on your own. Nobody can ever throw responsibility on me because these are just suggestions. Take it or leave it; that is up to you. And you are always responsible. If you take my advice, then you are responsible; if you don’t take it, you are still responsible. I am just outside it.
For me it is perfectly good, whether you become a mother or not is not a problem for me. But one should see all the implications of it. If one sees all the implications of it, very few people will decide to become fathers and mothers. And it would be a better world if fewer people decided to be mothers and fathers. It would be less crowded, less neurotic, less pathological, less crazy. Think about it. And don’t be worried, just think; there is no hurry. For three days think, and then come to a decision and do whatsoever you feel.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Samarpannam - a meditation technique
This technique works well when the burn is felt within. The burn - usually is a by product of ego, which is a by product of mind. When ego is there the burn has to be felt by each. Burn within may seem to be caused by various colors like revenge, emotional disturbance, argument, comparison, love (so called). People mistake these to be the reasons for the Burn. But on exposing the roots, the real problem appears to be the same mind and hence ego and hence these.
Start chanting a favorite mantra with full awareness. The mantra usually needs to give awareness of something before which you can stand exposed, before which you can give up, before which you can bow, before which you become insignificant. If it is OOm Ganapathaye Namaha, OOm Vigneshwaraya Namaha - the chanting goes on uninterrupted and with full awareness of the deity which should appear to dwell withing our spiritual heart center. Remember to keep full awareness on this heart center. The idea is a shift from the Head center to the heart center. As the chanting progresses mentally visualize the hand offering something from the heart center to the deity with an attitude of Samarpanam - ie Offering. This has to continue through the days. Feel a total offering of the heaviness at the heart center to the Superior what you have chosen.
Remember to continue this through the day. The more hours you spend in awareness of this technique, the more effect if brings. Usually observed is we tend to give up this meditation in an hour or so. So let the ego decide first that, I will do this technique for the whole of today. 'I' take it as a challenge. And finally the boat has to dropped like budha says. Once you cross the river, the boat has to be dropped. So finally as the mediation gains power, you drop the 'I' ness with awareness. Use the 'I'ness for killing the 'I'ness.
Start chanting a favorite mantra with full awareness. The mantra usually needs to give awareness of something before which you can stand exposed, before which you can give up, before which you can bow, before which you become insignificant. If it is OOm Ganapathaye Namaha, OOm Vigneshwaraya Namaha - the chanting goes on uninterrupted and with full awareness of the deity which should appear to dwell withing our spiritual heart center. Remember to keep full awareness on this heart center. The idea is a shift from the Head center to the heart center. As the chanting progresses mentally visualize the hand offering something from the heart center to the deity with an attitude of Samarpanam - ie Offering. This has to continue through the days. Feel a total offering of the heaviness at the heart center to the Superior what you have chosen.
Remember to continue this through the day. The more hours you spend in awareness of this technique, the more effect if brings. Usually observed is we tend to give up this meditation in an hour or so. So let the ego decide first that, I will do this technique for the whole of today. 'I' take it as a challenge. And finally the boat has to dropped like budha says. Once you cross the river, the boat has to be dropped. So finally as the mediation gains power, you drop the 'I' ness with awareness. Use the 'I'ness for killing the 'I'ness.
Do you understand now?” And the whole ridiculousness of it!
It happened once that when Bokoju met his Master and asked something about Buddha, the Master took him physically and threw him out of the window… from a three-storey building. The poor fellow fell down on a rock, smashed, and the Master was looking from the window and he asked, “Do you understand now?” And the whole ridiculousness of it!
And the silence of the garden. And the silence of the accident. The shock. And the Master’s smiling face, and those compassionate eyes, and his asking, “Now do you understand?”
And in that moment, Bokoju became enlightened. He said, “Yes, yes, Master. Can I come in and touch your feet in gratitude?”
“You are welcome,” the Master said, “to have a cup of tea with me.”
And they are sipping tea together.
Gurdjieff used to say that mind is very slow in action, and he is right. The body is far quicker. Mind is very lethargic; it goes on round and round in circles. So whenever there is some urgency, then your existence does not allow your mind to go round and round through logical processes to come to a conclusion, because then it will be too late.
One Zen Master had this habit that whenever he would talk of God, of Buddha, of the higher dimensions of life, he would raise one of his fingers towards the sky. It became so characteristic of him that one of his small sannyasins, a young boy — must have been of the age of Siddhartha — became very much interested in this one finger pointing upwards. And he was always in attendance just to do something for the Master — if he needs some tea, to run and bring the tea, or just to be by his side and to help him to get rid of the mosquitoes.
He learnt the trick, and playfully, whenever the Master was not looking at him, he would show one finger to the audience. The Master knew — people would laugh, or smile and he would know who was doing the whole trick.
One day — and this can be done only by a Zen Master — he simply caught hold of the child when he was making the gesture of one finger pointing to heaven, and cut the finger with a sharp knife. Now, just think of doing such a thing to poor Siddhartha….
The child cried, screamed, and the Master said, “Stop! And put the finger up!” And his shout was such, it was such a thunderlike shout, that the child forgot all about his finger, that it had been cut and blood was oozing, and he showed the finger which was NO more there, because the Master had ordered.
And in that moment when he was showing a finger which was no more there, he became aware of the invisible; the Master was not pointing to something visible, but something invisible. And the child started laughing, and the Master took him into his embrace and said, “You have understood.” And it is said that small child had his first satori. Later on became a famous enlightened Master.
And the silence of the garden. And the silence of the accident. The shock. And the Master’s smiling face, and those compassionate eyes, and his asking, “Now do you understand?”
And in that moment, Bokoju became enlightened. He said, “Yes, yes, Master. Can I come in and touch your feet in gratitude?”
“You are welcome,” the Master said, “to have a cup of tea with me.”
And they are sipping tea together.
Gurdjieff used to say that mind is very slow in action, and he is right. The body is far quicker. Mind is very lethargic; it goes on round and round in circles. So whenever there is some urgency, then your existence does not allow your mind to go round and round through logical processes to come to a conclusion, because then it will be too late.
One Zen Master had this habit that whenever he would talk of God, of Buddha, of the higher dimensions of life, he would raise one of his fingers towards the sky. It became so characteristic of him that one of his small sannyasins, a young boy — must have been of the age of Siddhartha — became very much interested in this one finger pointing upwards. And he was always in attendance just to do something for the Master — if he needs some tea, to run and bring the tea, or just to be by his side and to help him to get rid of the mosquitoes.
He learnt the trick, and playfully, whenever the Master was not looking at him, he would show one finger to the audience. The Master knew — people would laugh, or smile and he would know who was doing the whole trick.
One day — and this can be done only by a Zen Master — he simply caught hold of the child when he was making the gesture of one finger pointing to heaven, and cut the finger with a sharp knife. Now, just think of doing such a thing to poor Siddhartha….
The child cried, screamed, and the Master said, “Stop! And put the finger up!” And his shout was such, it was such a thunderlike shout, that the child forgot all about his finger, that it had been cut and blood was oozing, and he showed the finger which was NO more there, because the Master had ordered.
And in that moment when he was showing a finger which was no more there, he became aware of the invisible; the Master was not pointing to something visible, but something invisible. And the child started laughing, and the Master took him into his embrace and said, “You have understood.” And it is said that small child had his first satori. Later on became a famous enlightened Master.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Cheated on me!
Well, this Swami's name is out in the press for getting intimate with a woman. Right time to write about 'Cheated on me!' - I trusted this Swami. I had faith in this Swami. He broke my trust, he cheated me.
What indeed is the right feeling here within me?
Well as is always the case there are multiple feelings within. Well it goes something like these:
1. I didn't expect this from him.
2. He broke my faith / trust in him.
3. What will people think - about Me who followed him or about Him, whom i had projected as a intelligent soul.
4. People are going to make fun of me.
5. Is this life worth it? Shouldn't I just get back to my naughty old ways and be ruled by the mind?
6. Now i have to cover up my face and defend that I was not a follower of this guy actually - ha ha technically speaking etc.
7. Now i have to defend that - what I believed in and practiced is justified, that I didn't blindly follow him.
8. Why did he do it? he had too much at stake.
9. Well its a bogus report, this Swami ji just cannot do anything wrong. The knowledge that i have gathered from his teaching is indicative of that. Maybe he just wants to prove a point to his devotees - what true love is.
10. How is this guy going to respond, is it his end or will he fight back? Another Osho in the making? Hope so.
Could some of these be the feeling of a cheated husband or wife? It might just not be about - I had faith in him and he broke it.
What indeed is the right feeling here within me?
Well as is always the case there are multiple feelings within. Well it goes something like these:
1. I didn't expect this from him.
2. He broke my faith / trust in him.
3. What will people think - about Me who followed him or about Him, whom i had projected as a intelligent soul.
4. People are going to make fun of me.
5. Is this life worth it? Shouldn't I just get back to my naughty old ways and be ruled by the mind?
6. Now i have to cover up my face and defend that I was not a follower of this guy actually - ha ha technically speaking etc.
7. Now i have to defend that - what I believed in and practiced is justified, that I didn't blindly follow him.
8. Why did he do it? he had too much at stake.
9. Well its a bogus report, this Swami ji just cannot do anything wrong. The knowledge that i have gathered from his teaching is indicative of that. Maybe he just wants to prove a point to his devotees - what true love is.
10. How is this guy going to respond, is it his end or will he fight back? Another Osho in the making? Hope so.
Could some of these be the feeling of a cheated husband or wife? It might just not be about - I had faith in him and he broke it.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
How can one attain this freshness?
How can one attain this freshness?
It is the shortest meditation in the world. But you have to do it suddenly.
Walking on the street, suddenly you remember. Stop yourself. Stop yourself completely. Be still. Be present for half a minute. Whatsoever the situation, stop and just be. Then start moving again. Six times a day. At least.
Look at everything you pass as it for the first time. Make it a continuous attitude. Be it your wife or the husband, the burger or the movie, or even the emotions or the meditations. Touch everything as if for the first time. If you can do this, you will be freed of your past. The burden, depth, dirtiness, accumulated experiences – you will be frees of them. Every moment, every move from the past.
By constantly being in the present, you will slowly develop an affinity for it. Then everything will be new. Then you will be able to understand. All meditations try to get you to live in the present. This technique is one of the most beautiful and easiest.
It is the shortest meditation in the world. But you have to do it suddenly.
Walking on the street, suddenly you remember. Stop yourself. Stop yourself completely. Be still. Be present for half a minute. Whatsoever the situation, stop and just be. Then start moving again. Six times a day. At least.
Look at everything you pass as it for the first time. Make it a continuous attitude. Be it your wife or the husband, the burger or the movie, or even the emotions or the meditations. Touch everything as if for the first time. If you can do this, you will be freed of your past. The burden, depth, dirtiness, accumulated experiences – you will be frees of them. Every moment, every move from the past.
By constantly being in the present, you will slowly develop an affinity for it. Then everything will be new. Then you will be able to understand. All meditations try to get you to live in the present. This technique is one of the most beautiful and easiest.
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
I love that somebody errrrr.... sombody's image i created
Ever felt?
- oh its so easy to get along with person A
- oh its just not easy to get along with person B
- oh i have a love hate relation with person C
- person D does not match up to my expectations
- i keep away from person E, our ideas do not match
- i had enough, person F is just unfeeling
- i dont see any point in taking it further with person G
Do we love the person in the above statements or are we in love with the image of the person we have created in out mind?
For any relation, we mentally build up an image of that person in our subconscious. If the person matches this image we come with the first statement. If the person does not match this image, we come up with second statement. Realize this always, whether the relationship is of joy or of sorrow, a constant awareness of this process of image matching is required within us - ie if we were to experience more joy in relations.
A wonderful homework would be to keep noting all instances of this image matching in a day for any relationship of your choice.
We send an sms with all the so called love in it to our dear ones thinking we love the dear one. The reply is a plain yes or no with no colors attached - a real life answer rather than a reel life answer. Now is the moment! Capture your mind at this very instance. Feel the frustration rise, feel the sorrow happening, feel the burning inside, feel the misery inside, feel the mind say - no more sms. i cannot make a fool of myself, i give so much attention so much love and this is what i get, i too have a self esteem, i cannot dip below that, am not going to sms again or take the initiative. If this awareness is felt, then you are liberated. Analise this. I expected the other to reply in reel life replies and i got a real life reply. My image of other was reel life, it didnt match the real life Him or her. Remember we are happy with a relation ONLY because it matches the image of that person we carry within us. Next question, is this love?
- oh its so easy to get along with person A
- oh its just not easy to get along with person B
- oh i have a love hate relation with person C
- person D does not match up to my expectations
- i keep away from person E, our ideas do not match
- i had enough, person F is just unfeeling
- i dont see any point in taking it further with person G
Do we love the person in the above statements or are we in love with the image of the person we have created in out mind?
For any relation, we mentally build up an image of that person in our subconscious. If the person matches this image we come with the first statement. If the person does not match this image, we come up with second statement. Realize this always, whether the relationship is of joy or of sorrow, a constant awareness of this process of image matching is required within us - ie if we were to experience more joy in relations.
A wonderful homework would be to keep noting all instances of this image matching in a day for any relationship of your choice.
We send an sms with all the so called love in it to our dear ones thinking we love the dear one. The reply is a plain yes or no with no colors attached - a real life answer rather than a reel life answer. Now is the moment! Capture your mind at this very instance. Feel the frustration rise, feel the sorrow happening, feel the burning inside, feel the misery inside, feel the mind say - no more sms. i cannot make a fool of myself, i give so much attention so much love and this is what i get, i too have a self esteem, i cannot dip below that, am not going to sms again or take the initiative. If this awareness is felt, then you are liberated. Analise this. I expected the other to reply in reel life replies and i got a real life reply. My image of other was reel life, it didnt match the real life Him or her. Remember we are happy with a relation ONLY because it matches the image of that person we carry within us. Next question, is this love?
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