Ever felt?
- oh its so easy to get along with person A
- oh its just not easy to get along with person B
- oh i have a love hate relation with person C
- person D does not match up to my expectations
- i keep away from person E, our ideas do not match
- i had enough, person F is just unfeeling
- i dont see any point in taking it further with person G
Do we love the person in the above statements or are we in love with the image of the person we have created in out mind?
For any relation, we mentally build up an image of that person in our subconscious. If the person matches this image we come with the first statement. If the person does not match this image, we come up with second statement. Realize this always, whether the relationship is of joy or of sorrow, a constant awareness of this process of image matching is required within us - ie if we were to experience more joy in relations.
A wonderful homework would be to keep noting all instances of this image matching in a day for any relationship of your choice.
We send an sms with all the so called love in it to our dear ones thinking we love the dear one. The reply is a plain yes or no with no colors attached - a real life answer rather than a reel life answer. Now is the moment! Capture your mind at this very instance. Feel the frustration rise, feel the sorrow happening, feel the burning inside, feel the misery inside, feel the mind say - no more sms. i cannot make a fool of myself, i give so much attention so much love and this is what i get, i too have a self esteem, i cannot dip below that, am not going to sms again or take the initiative. If this awareness is felt, then you are liberated. Analise this. I expected the other to reply in reel life replies and i got a real life reply. My image of other was reel life, it didnt match the real life Him or her. Remember we are happy with a relation ONLY because it matches the image of that person we carry within us. Next question, is this love?
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