The Moment after the Incident - The moment before Action

Before I move out, I must move within. This should be the way of life, the way of interaction, the way of action, or else actions become re-actions. In any situation remember there exists the source, the object and the emotion. Our doings remain an Action if there does not exist the link between the Source and Object, which in most cases are linked via the Emotion. So remember Source-Emotion-Object. My best friend pulls a nasty joke at Me - the anger rises ie I am the Source. The friend becomes the Object and the linking becomes the emotions like hurt ego, sentiments, expectations etc.
Lets relate to this - I go to a friends house for dinner and the food is ordered (not made, the love that goes into making food for someone needs to be acknowleged at the higest level for it contains the the essence of sacrifce - THE ESSENCE OF THE CREATION ITSELF - as said in vedas). Without a thought an action is done, you take the chapati which your friend had ordered. The friend (host - and the society conditioned me to believe - athithi devo bhava) responds - Thankyou for taking my share! I have to remain hungry! The situation is in place - Source-Emotion-Object. You had always believed in athithi devo bhava and treated your friend like one at your house. The anger arises in the Source, the link - hurt ego, sentiments is in place to link to the Object - your friend. The immediate movement of the Awareness from the Source to the Object once the situation arises is where the problem lies. The first moment after the incident is what decides your Action. The first movement must be toward my center. Once you are centered within, the whole thing appears different; the perspective has changed. Then you look standing on the Source and not look standing on the Object. The incident you are in may not look like an insult. My friend may just look stupid or funny. Or, if you are really centered, you might come to know that he is right, This is not an insult. He has not said anything wrong about me. Now you are creating a conscious being within yourself. After every incident, let there be a moment of meditation: this is what abhyasa is.
Sufis use it continuously. Before a Sufi disciple stands, he will take Allah's name. Every action is done after a moment of Awareness. And by and by, this remembrance becomes a constant barrier between him and the action -- a division, a gap. The body cannot understand just by verbal communication. Only your head can understand, but the body remains unaffected. And unless understanding reaches to the very roots of the body, you cannot be transformed. Your ideas may go on changing, but your personality will persist. And then a new conflict will arise. Hence, the importance of abhyasa -- constant inner practice. These two words are very significant: abhyasa and vairagya. Yoga does not believe in intellectual understanding. It believes in bodily understanding in a total understanding in which your wholeness is involved. Not only you change in your head, but the deep sources of your being also change. If you do a particular practice constantly -- just repeating it continuously by and by it drops from the conscious, reaches to the unconscious and becomes part of it. Then only your actions reflect the teaching - The Moment after the Incident - The moment before Action. Be(aware) of this moment.