Is it love or lack of it?

Cant help wonder why between the two lovers, the girl friend does not look with love and feelings into the eyes of another man?
Ever wonder why between the two lovers, the husband does not look with love and feelings into the eyes of another woman?

Hmm worth wondering, worth noting down.

1. Could it be the fear of the conditioning, that a wife is not supposed to have feeling for another man or vice versa?
2. Could be because she loves the better half so much nothing more is needed?
3. Could it be the fear that he might fall in love with the other?
4. Could it be the resignation to the fate of already being in love?
5. Or it could also be the utter laziness of having to work out another relation?

Unlimited could be's. Worth knowing yourself. But then keep it yourself.

Ever wondered, that if the love for the other is strong enough then there is no fear for him or her to not look another person with attachment?

Couldnt it be the lack of confidence that, she might fall in love and then what happens to the other? Or the egos coming into play?

Ever felt the situation where you love your dog so much, but still you see another dog on the road and feel the same compassion towards it? You want to feed it, you want to give it a good scratch when it looks lovingly at you and wags its tail?
Worth wondering. Why the equations change. Worth wondering what was lacking in the human relation, was it confidence in the love that one has to the other? Or is it the society?

If the other, really was true love, then talking on mystical terms, taking everything out that relation would still leave it so full that there is nothing left to be wanting for? For good love is just about reason-less relation.

Cant we be so pure and confident to boldly look at another with love? For we know the love for the partner is the Whole? Couldnt it be the lack of confidence that, she or he might fall in love and then what happens to the other?

The vedanta saying here is worth mentioning - Om Purnamadah purnamidam purnaat purnamudachyate Purnasya purnamaadaaya Purnamevaavasishyate

\\Take out the full from the full and it still remains Full \\

Be aware, but in a relaxed way

Be aware, but in a relaxed way. Be aware, but without any tension. Attention without any tension. Calm and quiet. Alert, but with no strain. That memory came in the right moment – he relaxed.
The more conscious you are, the more intensely you live. The more conscious you are, the more reality becomes available to you. You EARN reality only through being conscious. When one is absolutely conscious, one is absolutely real.
Just going for a morning walk – if you can walk consciously, this is prayer. There is no need to go to any church. Prayer has no relationship with a church or a temple, prayer has something to do with your quality of awareness. You can do a thing prayerfully, and the thing may be anything, cleaning the floor, cooking the food, washing the clothes, taking a bath, going to sleep.

The mind and the bodily functions - learning from animals

Scrappy made his last visit to the vet and immense bodily pain made it reasonable to let go of this body and take up the next. Till the soul left the body, the mind remained, till the mind remained the urine remained within him.

The moment the soul left, the mind left. The moment the mind left, the ego left. The moment the ego left, the fear left. And the moment fear left, the urine left.

I lifted him out to the car with the urine falling out on the way.

So is it the soul that controls the doable bodily functions? Or is it the Mind? Or it should be the ego or hence the fear?

This can be linked to the observation that as babies we urinate irrespective of the time & place. As we grow up, the mind grows and hence the ego and hence the fear, the fear that society would laugh upon us if we did urinate in our pants, and hence the control over doable bodily functions.

So yes, may be the soul is So pure that it is not even bothered about the society functions. Yes the soul might not be responsible for the doable bodily functions.

Conditioned for ages

When I look inside myself, I catch a glimpse of what seems like centuries of conditioning.
One thing is certain: that you are not part of the conditioning, you are the watcher. There has to be a fixed reference point for the observer to observe the observed. Same concept is felt with 2 men on different trains moving at the same speed observing each other. The confusion is eminent. The dimension is different, the clarity is felt when one of them is unmoving and watching.

For a seeker the same holds good ie when he looks inside and see the centuries of conditioning, be aware..that you are not part of the conditioning, you are the watcher. Why else can you see the same two brothers of a family totally different in their approach to life. One might be and extrovert, a heart driven guy, a let go or leave it attitude whereas the other could be introvert, a mind driven, no its not right - attitude. Why are the basic nature of each individual different although the external factors or circumstances are the same? It could be the conditioning happening across centuries to something and there is a something that is stable, motionless able to observe the moving.
So have strong faith, you are the watcher, watch the observed raising in anger just because a bullet biker with a girl on it raced with the observed. Would this happen to all? I guess not.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to win an argument. Observe the uncompromising need of the observed for making the partner follow your way of thinking and doing - this is right, do this, dont do like that, eat this, wear this, talk to everyone and so on.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to feel that the family would not run without them.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to prove to the society their worth in building a high flying career.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to say, no i will do as i please, even though he would not want to do it.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to even win an argument with their little kid, just because he is the provider? even though he might be wrong.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to win an ego fight even with his 6 month old dog and thrashes it up?

Hmm... observe the observed. Do not think about the logic behind these action for there are no rights and wrongs. Just conditioned people and observer being identified with the conditioned observed. Conditioning's are just like dust which has gathered on the mirror; it can be washed away, and the mirror will come to its purity immediately. No dust can destroy the mirror, it can only hide it. Conditioning's can hide you, but they cannot destroy you. Just as dust can be removed from the mirror, conditioning's can be removed as easily.

Mrs. Goldstein’s frustrated next door neighbor is trying to squeeze some affection out of little Hymie. ”Do you love me, darling?” the neighbor asked Hymie. Little Hymie nodded. ”Then put your arms around me, honey, and give me a great big kiss,” she said. Hymie went on kicking his football. ”How much do you love me, precious?” the neighbor kept on. ”Show me how you would cry if I died,” she urged. ”Die first!” said Hymie running off. Do something. Don’t go on intellectualizing. Children are very clear about their perceptions. What is the point of thinking intellectually that ”If I die, would you cry?” Hymie is absolutely right – ”Die first! And then we will see.” You have to stop thinking about these things. Thinking is not going to lead anywhere. Start meditating, becoming more aware, alert – and then you don’t need my answer. The answer is within you. I am simply saying that which you will find arising within yourself.

Is it the energy from awareness?

The nights experience was new. I would have slept for 3 hrs and up at 2am for some reason. By 3.30am i was out in the open terrace meditating - chanting, counting, breath awareness. The night was wonderful with the climate just right for it to happen. The deadening silence with occasional flutter of the wings of some birds or the growls of dogs. All these made me smile with joy. When everything is a reason for celebration, everything just makes you smile. At times i got physically uncomfortable with non existent pains and nags. Yes i still have to go some distance. The feeling of intense awareness slowly started dawning, it was as if you where in full awareness of the immediate surrounding, as if its illuminated by a 1000 watt bulb and you were fresh in the moment observing everything.

Time went fast and cold wind started blowing and the mind realized it. I made a move into the terrace room by 5.30am and continued lying down in awareness. Not sure if i dozed off, but all through out this feeling of awareness was with me as if i was observing me sleeping. It wasn't the ultimate for there were breaks and movements and shifts.

Then moved on at 6.30am and took to a jog for 20 minutes. Finally it ended on top of the 45 stairs stadium and the meditation then too was different. Everything felt light and reasonless.

So far at 4pm, there is no signs of sleepiness or tiredness or frustration or tension. Everything feels silent.
The mind anticipated a sleepy observed and got the car to spend the afternoon in. The mind is wrong and is now reason - less.

My Child!

The child is a gift from god. Be respectful to the child... not just loving but respectful also. If there is not respect, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.

All the ideas follow after this. I will bring up My! child like this. My child will be unique, My child will have everything! The very parents who say this actually forget the one important question. Have I given my child the teachings of peace, bliss, tension free, frustration free? For these are the basic inner qualities of the human soul and hence the importance of enlightenment. So the story continues, My child will not marry a christian, My child will not opt for love marriage, My child is good, he will not do any wrong, My child will not lie (now the irony is - right and wrong are just of the mind. Otherwise how would you explain why Lord Krishna had 100 of Gopikas and that we call him Kalla Krishna, how would you explain the Shiva Tantra teachings).

And if you see all these happens because of the feeling of MY child getting magnified. Only because it is MY child. Simple observation, you cannot say my Neighbors child will be so and so. Atleast the present generation, so called learned crowd will not. We do see this also in the olden days, where society of Raja family decides that a girl deep down in one of the branches cannot marry a outer caste guy.

To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.

To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened. then it is a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk of it as a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk for their whole lives about how much they have done. A real mother will never say a single word about doing, and not only that she will not say: she never feels that she has done it. She has enjoyed it; she is obliged to the child. It is not only the birth of the child: simultaneously you are born in a new way, the mother is born.

Remember to - Be Useless

So remember, if you ever try this solitary madness, drop the idea of utility. Be useless. Only then can you be alone. Because really, utility has been forced on your mind by society. Society says, ”Be of some utility. Don’t be useless.” Society want you to be an economic unit, a thing, efficient, utilitarian. Society doesn’t want you to be just a flower. No, even if you are a flower then you must be worth being sold. Society needs you to be in the market, you must have some utility. Only then are you of use, otherwise not. Society goes on preaching that use is the goal of life, the purpose of life. This is nonsense. I am not saying be useless. I am saying that this use is not the goal. You have to live in society, to be useful to it, but to remain capable of being useless at any moment. That capacity must be retained otherwise you become a thing and not a person. When you move into solitariness, aloneness, this will become a problem. You will feel yourself useless.
I have been working with many people. Sometimes I suggest that they go for three weeks or three months into total loneliness, silence. And I tell them that after seven days they will want to come back and their mind will find all the reasons for not being there so that they can come back. I tell
them not to listen to those arguments and to make it a point that for the time they have decided upon they will not leave. They say to me that they are going of their own will, so why should they leave? I tell them that they don’t know themselves. This will not be there for more than three to seven days; afterwards they will long to return, because society has become alcoholic, it is an intoxicant. In
sober moments you can think about being alone, but when you are alone, within three days you will think, ”What am I doing?” Remember, use is for society. Society uses you and you use society. This is a reciprocal relationship.
But life is not for use. It is non-utilitarian, purposeless, it is a play, a celebration. So when you move into solitariness to do this technique, be prepared from the very beginning that you are going to be useless, and enjoy it, don’t feel sad about it. You cannot conceive of what arguments the mind will bring. You will say, ”The world is in such trouble and you are sitting in silence here. Look what is
happening in Vietnam and what is happening in Pakistan and what is happening in China; and your country is dying, there is no food, there is no water. What are you doing here meditation? What is the use? Will it bring socialism to the country?” Mind will bring beautiful arguments; mind is the great arguer. It is the Devil – it will try to persuade you, it will convince you that you are wasting time.
But don’t listen to it. From the very beginning be prepared, ”I am going to waste time. I will not be of any use. I will simply enjoy being here.”
And don’t be concerned with the world. The world goes on. It is always in trouble. It has been always in trouble and it will remain always in trouble. That is the way of the world. You cannot do anything so don’t try to be a great world reformer, a revolutionary, a messiah. Don’t try.
You simply be yourself and enjoy your solitariness, just like a rock or a tree or a river. Useless! What is the use of a rock just lying there under the rains, under the sun, under the stars? What is the use of this rock? No use – the rock enjoys itself being that way. Just be a rock. There are rock gardens
in Japan, in Zen monasteries; they make rock gardens particularly for this. There are no trees in the garden, just sand and rock. A solitary rock, just sits there, and the master says to the disciple, ”Go,
and be just a rock, just like that rock. Don’t be bothered about the world. That rock remains there whatsoever happens to the world. It is not worried. It is always in meditation.”
Unless you are really prepared to be useless, you cannot be solitary, you cannot be in solitude.
And once you know the depth of it you can come back to society. You must come back because
solitariness is not a style of life – it is just a training. It is not a way of life, it is just a deep relaxation to change the perspective. It is just falling out of step with society to have a look at yourself, who you are, alone. So don’t think that this is a style of life. Many have made it a style of life. They are
in error. They are absolutely in error. They have made a medicine food. It is not a style of life, it is just medicinal. You fall out for a time being just to have a perspective, a distance, to see what you are and what society is doing to you. When you are out of it, you can have a better look. You can observe. Without being concerned, without being in it, you can become an observer from the hilltop,
you can become a witness. You are so far away. Unprejudiced, undisturbed, you can look.
So note it, this is not a way of life. I am not saying leave the world and become hermits somewherein the Himalayas – no. But sometimes leave, relax, be useless, be alone, exist like a rock, be independent, free from the world, be a part of nature – and you will be rejuvenated, reborn. Then
come back and move in society and in the crowd again. And try to carry that beauty, that silence that happened to you when you were alone. Now carry it, don’t lose contact with it. Move deep into the crowd but don’t become a part of it. Let the crowd be there outside you – you remain alone.

The inside is trembling, but they will go - if u meet it

Those who go into deep silence and solitude, they always ask me, ”There will be fear, so what to do?” I tell them not to do anything, just to live the fear. If trembling comes, tremble, why prevent it?
If an inner fear is there, and you are shaking with it, so shake with it. Don’t do anything. Allow it to happen. It will go by itself. If you avoid it – and you can avoid it. You can start chanting Ram, Ram,Ram; you can cling to a mantra so that your mind is diverted. You will be pacified and the fear will not be there – you have pushed it into the unconscious. It was coming out – which was good, you
were going to be free from it – it was leaving you and when it leaves you, you will tremble. That is natural because from every cell of the body, of the mind, some energy which has always been there pushed down, is leaving. There will be a shaking, a trembling; it will be just like an earthquake. The whole soul will be disturbed by it but let it be. Don’t do anything. That is my advice. Don’t even
chant the name of Ram. Don’t try to do anything with it because all that you can do will again be suppression. Just by allowing it to be, by letting it be, it will leave you – and when it has left, you will be altogether a different man.
The cyclone has gone and you will now be centered, centered as you never were before. And once you know the art of letting things be, you will know one of the master keys which opens all the inner doors. Then whatsoever the case is, let it be, don’t avoid it.
All different methods to trick the mind. So when i say this technique - this feels right and when i say Soham that technique feels right. But yes - above all Be Aware of what is happening within, search within if Soham is hiding something within? It was.