My Child!

The child is a gift from god. Be respectful to the child... not just loving but respectful also. If there is not respect, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.

All the ideas follow after this. I will bring up My! child like this. My child will be unique, My child will have everything! The very parents who say this actually forget the one important question. Have I given my child the teachings of peace, bliss, tension free, frustration free? For these are the basic inner qualities of the human soul and hence the importance of enlightenment. So the story continues, My child will not marry a christian, My child will not opt for love marriage, My child is good, he will not do any wrong, My child will not lie (now the irony is - right and wrong are just of the mind. Otherwise how would you explain why Lord Krishna had 100 of Gopikas and that we call him Kalla Krishna, how would you explain the Shiva Tantra teachings).

And if you see all these happens because of the feeling of MY child getting magnified. Only because it is MY child. Simple observation, you cannot say my Neighbors child will be so and so. Atleast the present generation, so called learned crowd will not. We do see this also in the olden days, where society of Raja family decides that a girl deep down in one of the branches cannot marry a outer caste guy.

To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.

To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened. then it is a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk of it as a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk for their whole lives about how much they have done. A real mother will never say a single word about doing, and not only that she will not say: she never feels that she has done it. She has enjoyed it; she is obliged to the child. It is not only the birth of the child: simultaneously you are born in a new way, the mother is born.