Let’s be honest here. Have you ever found yourself secretly wishing someone else would fail? I don’t mean you wish them any serious bad luck, only that they don’t become more successful than you? Sometimes it’s hard to wish others well, particularly those you know well – friends, colleagues, neighbors, family members. It’s hard to see a colleague get the promotion you worked so hard for. It’s difficult to see your friend on television, or your neighbor able to purchase a new car. We’re human; we get jealous.
While it can be seductive, or at least habitual, to secretly desire to keep others at your level, it’s absolutely not in your best interest. The way to rise to the top is to wish everyone well, to hope with all your heart that everyone can expand to their greatest potential, to wish that the people you know, and those whom you don’t know, can all realize their dreams and achieve greatness.
When you wish someone well, it creates a momentum within you, an inner environment of success. It reminds your spirit of your loving and deserving nature. It creates the atmosphere within you to help you succeed and create abundance. When you delight in the success of others, it’s as if you are sprinkling the seeds for a garden of success.
As you wish others well, notice how good it feels. When your wishes are sincere, they will serve as a reminder that giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. And the goodness that we feel gives us the energy to look at the numerous opportunities that are awaiting us in our journey. And remember Opportunity - does not mean just money. It could be events to cheerful, events to be blissful, events to just be happy seeing others happy, events to just trust others and be happy in spite of they reciprocating or not etc.
On the other hand being in jealousy of others success just relates to a closed energy level. Please observe the burn within - at the stomach, at the heart and finally at the mind. This very burn eats up the energy that we have. Just observe the way our mind gets back and back at the same topic and burns the issue.
And when our energy goes in this way, when our mind is pre occupied, no wonder we miss the opportunities that come our way. Because mind cannot work on two things at the same time.
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Run
It happens many times that runners.... You will not think of running as a meditation, but
runners sometimes have felt a tremendous experience of meditation. They were surprised,
because they were not looking for it -- who thinks that a runner is going to experience
God? -- but it has happened, and now running is becoming more and more a new kind of
meditation. It can happen in running. If you have ever been a runner, if you have enjoyed
running in the early morning when the air is fresh and young and the whole world is
coming back out of sleep, awakening, and you were running and your body was
functioning beautifully, and the fresh air, and the new world again born out of the
darkness of the night, and everything singing all around, and you were feeling so alive....
A moment comes when the runner disappears, there is only running. The body, mind and
soul start functioning together; suddenly an inner orgasm is released.
Runners have sometimes come accidentally on the experience of the fourth, turiya,
although they will miss it because they will think it was just because of running that they
enjoyed the moment; that it was a beautiful day, that the body was healthy and the world
was beautiful, and it was just a certain mood. They will not take note of it. But if they
take note of it, my own observation is that a runner can more easily come close to
meditation than anybody else. Jogging can be of immense help, swimming can be of
immense help. All these things have to be transformed into meditations.
Drop old ideas of meditations, that just sitting underneath a tree with a yoga posture is
meditation. That is only one of the ways, and may be suitable for a few people but is not
suitable for all. For a small child it is not meditation, it is torture. For a young man who is
alive, vibrant, it is repression, it is not meditation. Maybe for an old man who has lived,
whose energies are declining, it may be meditation.
runners sometimes have felt a tremendous experience of meditation. They were surprised,
because they were not looking for it -- who thinks that a runner is going to experience
God? -- but it has happened, and now running is becoming more and more a new kind of
meditation. It can happen in running. If you have ever been a runner, if you have enjoyed
running in the early morning when the air is fresh and young and the whole world is
coming back out of sleep, awakening, and you were running and your body was
functioning beautifully, and the fresh air, and the new world again born out of the
darkness of the night, and everything singing all around, and you were feeling so alive....
A moment comes when the runner disappears, there is only running. The body, mind and
soul start functioning together; suddenly an inner orgasm is released.
Runners have sometimes come accidentally on the experience of the fourth, turiya,
although they will miss it because they will think it was just because of running that they
enjoyed the moment; that it was a beautiful day, that the body was healthy and the world
was beautiful, and it was just a certain mood. They will not take note of it. But if they
take note of it, my own observation is that a runner can more easily come close to
meditation than anybody else. Jogging can be of immense help, swimming can be of
immense help. All these things have to be transformed into meditations.
Drop old ideas of meditations, that just sitting underneath a tree with a yoga posture is
meditation. That is only one of the ways, and may be suitable for a few people but is not
suitable for all. For a small child it is not meditation, it is torture. For a young man who is
alive, vibrant, it is repression, it is not meditation. Maybe for an old man who has lived,
whose energies are declining, it may be meditation.
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
I will make mistakes, but not again
Sometimes it happens that you commit to the wrong thing, even then it is good to commit, because the day you will know it is wrong you can get out of it. At least you would have learned one thing: that it is wrong, and never to get into anything like that again. It is a great experience; it brings you closer to truth.
Why do people vacillate so much? -- because from the very childhood you have been told not to commit any mistakes.
- Not to touch fire, i doubt how many kids really have experienced first and then been told not to touch fire.
- Not to go out into the cold morning.
- Not to go out into the rain.
- Not to play in the mud.
- Not to smoke.
- Not to drink.
- Not to even run!
- Not to laugh.
- Not to cry.
- Not to come after 10th position in the class.
Ever wondered why? Because in all this there are experiences. Experience of either truth or mistakes. But both are experiences. So unless you try these, you miss both - the experience of it being right and the learning that comes from the failure or the mistake.
You just grow up eventually being a stone of no intelligence, which cannot adapt, which lacks intelligence and that is the ability to use knowledge as the circumstance requires.
This is what happens, the kids miss both the experience and the learning that comes from it if its a mistake.
Unless a kid runs early morning at 6am in the drizzling rain, he does not get to know of the beauty of the experience - the occassional birds chirping and flying by, sitting drenched on the cables, the silence on the huge ground and just the sound of the drizzle on the running tracks, the occasional few people looking at you as if you are crazy, the dimly light ash colored sky and the shiver that you get because of the cold, the experience that you pant faster in this wonderful atmosphere, the experience that you have to be aware the entire half hour lest you slip in the waters, the experience of thinking if its sweat or rain water dripping down the forehead, the experience of having to see smoke come out of your mouth as you look up high into the ash colored sky and gasp for breath, the feeling of gratefullness while standing under a tree to gain your breath, feeling thankful to the tree, or the experience that you are down with cold and fever, the learning that sudden changes in climate causes cold!
The kid fails all these experiences - be it mistake or the correctness of the action. That is one of the greatest teachings of all the societies all over the world -- and very dangerous, very harmful. Teach children to commit as many mistakes as possible, with only one condition: don't commit the same mistake again, that's all. And they will grow, and they will experience more and more, and they will not vacillate. Otherwise a trembling... and time is passing by, out of your hands, and you are vacillating.
After all kids then have three clear cut roads, help the pick one of the three, mind you - help them and you dont pick.
1. Its a wonderful experience running in the rain at 6am
2. Its a wonderful experience running in the rain at 6am, but I fell sick. So I have to train myself to this new experience, train my body and mind to accept the new climate.
3. Its a wonderful experience running in the rain at 6am, but its a MISTAKE. I ll fall sick. I should be careful to avoid it as much as possible.
An incident to help us remember this teaching:
"Just a few days ago, one young man came to me. For three years he has been vacillating
whether to take sannyas or not. I said, "Decide either yes or no, and be finished with it!
And I am not saying decide yes, I am only saying DECIDE. No is as good as yes. But
wasting three years? If you had taken sannyas three years ago," I told him, "by this time
you would have known whether it is worth it or not; at least one thing would have been
decided. Vacillating three years, nothing has been decided. You are in the same space,
and three years have gone by."
TRAIN AS THOUGH CUT OFF.
Mind is vacillation. The discipline of a meditator is to become so watchful of the mind, so alert to the mind and its stupidities -- its hesitations, its tremblings, its vacillations -- to become so watchful that you are cut off.
Why do people vacillate so much? -- because from the very childhood you have been told not to commit any mistakes.
- Not to touch fire, i doubt how many kids really have experienced first and then been told not to touch fire.
- Not to go out into the cold morning.
- Not to go out into the rain.
- Not to play in the mud.
- Not to smoke.
- Not to drink.
- Not to even run!
- Not to laugh.
- Not to cry.
- Not to come after 10th position in the class.
Ever wondered why? Because in all this there are experiences. Experience of either truth or mistakes. But both are experiences. So unless you try these, you miss both - the experience of it being right and the learning that comes from the failure or the mistake.
You just grow up eventually being a stone of no intelligence, which cannot adapt, which lacks intelligence and that is the ability to use knowledge as the circumstance requires.
This is what happens, the kids miss both the experience and the learning that comes from it if its a mistake.
Unless a kid runs early morning at 6am in the drizzling rain, he does not get to know of the beauty of the experience - the occassional birds chirping and flying by, sitting drenched on the cables, the silence on the huge ground and just the sound of the drizzle on the running tracks, the occasional few people looking at you as if you are crazy, the dimly light ash colored sky and the shiver that you get because of the cold, the experience that you pant faster in this wonderful atmosphere, the experience that you have to be aware the entire half hour lest you slip in the waters, the experience of thinking if its sweat or rain water dripping down the forehead, the experience of having to see smoke come out of your mouth as you look up high into the ash colored sky and gasp for breath, the feeling of gratefullness while standing under a tree to gain your breath, feeling thankful to the tree, or the experience that you are down with cold and fever, the learning that sudden changes in climate causes cold!
The kid fails all these experiences - be it mistake or the correctness of the action. That is one of the greatest teachings of all the societies all over the world -- and very dangerous, very harmful. Teach children to commit as many mistakes as possible, with only one condition: don't commit the same mistake again, that's all. And they will grow, and they will experience more and more, and they will not vacillate. Otherwise a trembling... and time is passing by, out of your hands, and you are vacillating.
After all kids then have three clear cut roads, help the pick one of the three, mind you - help them and you dont pick.
1. Its a wonderful experience running in the rain at 6am
2. Its a wonderful experience running in the rain at 6am, but I fell sick. So I have to train myself to this new experience, train my body and mind to accept the new climate.
3. Its a wonderful experience running in the rain at 6am, but its a MISTAKE. I ll fall sick. I should be careful to avoid it as much as possible.
An incident to help us remember this teaching:
"Just a few days ago, one young man came to me. For three years he has been vacillating
whether to take sannyas or not. I said, "Decide either yes or no, and be finished with it!
And I am not saying decide yes, I am only saying DECIDE. No is as good as yes. But
wasting three years? If you had taken sannyas three years ago," I told him, "by this time
you would have known whether it is worth it or not; at least one thing would have been
decided. Vacillating three years, nothing has been decided. You are in the same space,
and three years have gone by."
TRAIN AS THOUGH CUT OFF.
Mind is vacillation. The discipline of a meditator is to become so watchful of the mind, so alert to the mind and its stupidities -- its hesitations, its tremblings, its vacillations -- to become so watchful that you are cut off.
Monday, October 24, 2011
Suicide and He was a coward! Is it?
We pretty much hear this comment - 'Moron he was a coward, he didn't have the guts to face life!".
A guy or a girl commits suicide and this is the first comment we hear. Is there a different angle to it?
Or say for instance a person takes to drugs and this is the comment we might hear - He or she dosent want to take up the responsibilities of life.
Can we picture a donkey being over loaded with goods and made to walk and if possible it suicides.
The only explanation then given is - the donkey didn't ask for the goods to be loaded, where as the humans did.
He or she asked for the high paying job.
He or she asked for a family life.
He or she wanted the pleasure of the physical relation. Funny - here though - worth noting they dont have a choice here in India.
He or she asked for marriage.
He or she asked for the costly flat on emi.
He or she asked for the costly car.
He or she asked for the first kid.
He or she asked for the second kid.
The list is never ending... it just ends with out life.
The question then remains... Is, to err human?
Can human beings not make mistakes?
Can human beings not know the net outcome of his action although he has thought about it?
Has the very society, parents, uncles, aunties, priests, policemen, teachers, friends who "conditioned" every human being to do all the actions listed above told them about the outcomes of each of these actions? Hmm... but then the question remains.. why should they be blamed, why can you take up the responsibility of your wanting to marry?
But then the question remains - as a baby were you vulnerable?
Did you have a reasoning mind and could it be conditioned, could it can be moulded?
Yes - the inevitable answer is Yes and the truth is, these were responsible to mould, to condition : society, parents, uncles, aunties, priests, policemen, teachers, friends etc and etc.
Isn't it true that we, the new generation are more driven by rajasik and tamasik energy and that we are even ignorant of the Saatvik energy?
Isnt it true that we weren't shown the possibility of these 3 factors as babies which makes a human decide to quit life? To quit responsibilities?
So the question is - did the baby have a chance?
Is it right to load a donkey till the sky and expect it to still work? Do we see rationality in the donkey jumping into a well?
Should we say - the donkey is a coward, it couldn't face life? Or if the donkey drinks itself to addiction - that its not taking up responsibility.
So the question remains - Is he/she a coward when a human gets addicted, when a human commits suicide? Should we really say - "He was a coward, he didn't have the guts to face life!" Or should we think:
He was a human and made a mistake.
He got conditioned by the expectations of the society.
He miscalculated and couldn't judge all the outcomes.
He just got conditioned by the fact that human beings have to marry.
Or he just got conditioned by the fact that married people have to have kids?
A guy or a girl commits suicide and this is the first comment we hear. Is there a different angle to it?
Or say for instance a person takes to drugs and this is the comment we might hear - He or she dosent want to take up the responsibilities of life.
Can we picture a donkey being over loaded with goods and made to walk and if possible it suicides.
The only explanation then given is - the donkey didn't ask for the goods to be loaded, where as the humans did.
He or she asked for the high paying job.
He or she asked for a family life.
He or she wanted the pleasure of the physical relation. Funny - here though - worth noting they dont have a choice here in India.
He or she asked for marriage.
He or she asked for the costly flat on emi.
He or she asked for the costly car.
He or she asked for the first kid.
He or she asked for the second kid.
The list is never ending... it just ends with out life.
The question then remains... Is, to err human?
Can human beings not make mistakes?
Can human beings not know the net outcome of his action although he has thought about it?
Has the very society, parents, uncles, aunties, priests, policemen, teachers, friends who "conditioned" every human being to do all the actions listed above told them about the outcomes of each of these actions? Hmm... but then the question remains.. why should they be blamed, why can you take up the responsibility of your wanting to marry?
But then the question remains - as a baby were you vulnerable?
Did you have a reasoning mind and could it be conditioned, could it can be moulded?
Yes - the inevitable answer is Yes and the truth is, these were responsible to mould, to condition : society, parents, uncles, aunties, priests, policemen, teachers, friends etc and etc.
Isn't it true that we, the new generation are more driven by rajasik and tamasik energy and that we are even ignorant of the Saatvik energy?
Isnt it true that we weren't shown the possibility of these 3 factors as babies which makes a human decide to quit life? To quit responsibilities?
So the question is - did the baby have a chance?
Is it right to load a donkey till the sky and expect it to still work? Do we see rationality in the donkey jumping into a well?
Should we say - the donkey is a coward, it couldn't face life? Or if the donkey drinks itself to addiction - that its not taking up responsibility.
So the question remains - Is he/she a coward when a human gets addicted, when a human commits suicide? Should we really say - "He was a coward, he didn't have the guts to face life!" Or should we think:
He was a human and made a mistake.
He got conditioned by the expectations of the society.
He miscalculated and couldn't judge all the outcomes.
He just got conditioned by the fact that human beings have to marry.
Or he just got conditioned by the fact that married people have to have kids?
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Astrology - ha ha ha
Astrology is man’s weakness, because he cannot see the future and he wants to see it.
Question arises why does he want to see the future.
To know if he is going to die soon?
To know if he is going to do the engineering?
To know if he is going to do a second degree?
To know if he would get the right job?
To know if the right job should be left for the next one?
To know when he can marry?
To know if his marriage is going to break?
To know if his not yet started business will continue making him money?
To know if the unborn kid is going to be born?
To know if the kid is going to do good on all the questions above?
He is always afraid to go astray. He wants to be certain that he is on the right path.
In all the points mentioned above reason for the questions is Fear. Fear of one thing or the other.
He wants to pacify his mind - his chattering mind.
And in the mystic field, fear is nothing but a discontinuity, an end.
And to recognize the fact that it is good that the future is not determined, otherwise you would not have any freedom. Astrology is against freedom. If tomorrow is decided, then I am a machine, not a man. Only machines should consult astrologers, not men.
And such a man is an individual, and the society is always afraid of individuals. The jesus was crucified and so was Osho.
Astrology does not give you the freedom — it is the greatest slavery. Every minute detail is written and there is no way to change it — it will happen the way it was determined. It has reduced man to a puppet, a puppet of blind forces.
If astrology is right then Gautam Buddha, Krishna, Kabir, Dadu, do not deserve any respect. It was determined; they had to become what they became. So what is great in it? And murderers do not need to be condemned. Just as Buddha is a puppet, the murderer is a puppet, and both are in the hands of… we know not, we are not aware of those hands.
No, I deny this determination. I want to say to you that the achievement of Buddha or Kabir or Nanak is their own achievement. It is their creation, it is their effort, it is their struggle. And they deserve all respect for it. And the murderer, the rapist, the criminal — they are also creating themselves. They could have created themselves as a buddha, but they decided to create themselves as a murderer. The whole responsibility is theirs. Astrology takes away your responsibility. It is suitable for cowards. Those who cant take up the responsibilty, those who cant stand up to what their life has become. Those who want to shift the blame elsewhere and say yes, nothing much i can do, it is in my horescope, i cant do much about it.
Quite typical, if you observe the astrologer ravages a failed soul. They make you feel good that the negative things happening in your life is not your doing. NOthing much you can. At the same time they make you dependend on them as in offering solutions for these problems.
The question should be - if my horescope has it, then how can the astrolger change it. If he can change it then he truly is god.
Anything that takes away responsibility from man is dangerous because it makes cowards out of us, it gives us reasons to waste our life.here is no science of astrology and there can never be. It is against man’s spiritual growth, it is against man’s freedom, it is against man’s humanity.
Question arises why does he want to see the future.
To know if he is going to die soon?
To know if he is going to do the engineering?
To know if he is going to do a second degree?
To know if he would get the right job?
To know if the right job should be left for the next one?
To know when he can marry?
To know if his marriage is going to break?
To know if his not yet started business will continue making him money?
To know if the unborn kid is going to be born?
To know if the kid is going to do good on all the questions above?
He is always afraid to go astray. He wants to be certain that he is on the right path.
In all the points mentioned above reason for the questions is Fear. Fear of one thing or the other.
He wants to pacify his mind - his chattering mind.
And in the mystic field, fear is nothing but a discontinuity, an end.
And to recognize the fact that it is good that the future is not determined, otherwise you would not have any freedom. Astrology is against freedom. If tomorrow is decided, then I am a machine, not a man. Only machines should consult astrologers, not men.
And such a man is an individual, and the society is always afraid of individuals. The jesus was crucified and so was Osho.
Astrology does not give you the freedom — it is the greatest slavery. Every minute detail is written and there is no way to change it — it will happen the way it was determined. It has reduced man to a puppet, a puppet of blind forces.
If astrology is right then Gautam Buddha, Krishna, Kabir, Dadu, do not deserve any respect. It was determined; they had to become what they became. So what is great in it? And murderers do not need to be condemned. Just as Buddha is a puppet, the murderer is a puppet, and both are in the hands of… we know not, we are not aware of those hands.
No, I deny this determination. I want to say to you that the achievement of Buddha or Kabir or Nanak is their own achievement. It is their creation, it is their effort, it is their struggle. And they deserve all respect for it. And the murderer, the rapist, the criminal — they are also creating themselves. They could have created themselves as a buddha, but they decided to create themselves as a murderer. The whole responsibility is theirs. Astrology takes away your responsibility. It is suitable for cowards. Those who cant take up the responsibilty, those who cant stand up to what their life has become. Those who want to shift the blame elsewhere and say yes, nothing much i can do, it is in my horescope, i cant do much about it.
Quite typical, if you observe the astrologer ravages a failed soul. They make you feel good that the negative things happening in your life is not your doing. NOthing much you can. At the same time they make you dependend on them as in offering solutions for these problems.
The question should be - if my horescope has it, then how can the astrolger change it. If he can change it then he truly is god.
Anything that takes away responsibility from man is dangerous because it makes cowards out of us, it gives us reasons to waste our life.here is no science of astrology and there can never be. It is against man’s spiritual growth, it is against man’s freedom, it is against man’s humanity.
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
The headache
Yesterday night was new. A throbbing headache, never before experienced. Very painful as if a nerve inside the base of my head was trying to burst.
For the first time I got glimpses of being a watcher. The pain was so immense that all I could do after taking the pills was to hammer my head. But then for dislike of publicity i had to refrain.
I had no other option but to watch the pain - dive deep down into the center of the pain. As I sat and meditated on the pain, I was able to go deeper and deeper and as I did this my head spun and a feeling of detachment started, detachment from the body and the pain. I could feel as if these three were distinct.
The mind tried hard to bring in the chatter and this then became the third person in the play. The body, pain and the Mind.
As the mind chattered, I was clearly able to witness it separate from the throbbing pain. The pain raised manifolds as the mind chattered. I tried accepting the pain, starting welcoming it. I thanked it for the experience, for being my teacher for awareness. I allowed it to flow through the body. And as my awareness spread over the body, I saw my body parts tensed, tightened. I had made a hard fist unknowingly. I had to force it to open and relax. The same was observed for other parts of my body.
Hope the next headache is going to be another learning.
For the first time I got glimpses of being a watcher. The pain was so immense that all I could do after taking the pills was to hammer my head. But then for dislike of publicity i had to refrain.
I had no other option but to watch the pain - dive deep down into the center of the pain. As I sat and meditated on the pain, I was able to go deeper and deeper and as I did this my head spun and a feeling of detachment started, detachment from the body and the pain. I could feel as if these three were distinct.
The mind tried hard to bring in the chatter and this then became the third person in the play. The body, pain and the Mind.
As the mind chattered, I was clearly able to witness it separate from the throbbing pain. The pain raised manifolds as the mind chattered. I tried accepting the pain, starting welcoming it. I thanked it for the experience, for being my teacher for awareness. I allowed it to flow through the body. And as my awareness spread over the body, I saw my body parts tensed, tightened. I had made a hard fist unknowingly. I had to force it to open and relax. The same was observed for other parts of my body.
Hope the next headache is going to be another learning.
Thursday, October 6, 2011
The bee has forgotten the door!
The most important thing whenever you are in a problem is not to start immediately doing something. Just sit silently, relax, rest, be in a let-go. Rather than trying to find out the way, watch from where you have entered, because each problem has its own solution and each question has its own answer in it.
It is the same we see, we feel at times in our life.
This is akin to the bee which has entered the house through the open main door.
Bees seem to have something like human minds, exactly the same kind of stupidity. The doors may be open, but if a bee is inside the room, caught inside the room... and she may have come from the open door but she will try to get out from the closed window and the more she tries, the more desperate she becomes, because there is no way to get through the ceiling or through the wall or through the closed window. And in that desperation, frustration he becomes more and more blind, afraid, scared. He loses all intelligence. And the same is the case with human beings.
We often get into the room through the open door and then forget the very door through which we entered it. Then we end up like the bee - blind, afraid, scared.
So remember yourself in this room when in tension when:
The 21K Blackberry is paper weight,
The 25K Tab has been stolen,
The fight is on for the black belt,
And the tension on for continuing it or not to a year later,
To upgrade from the small to the Big car above your budget and unable to manage the emi,
To upgrade to the Biggest car and use the small car,
To try and buy the bigger flat, when you are staying at your own smaller house,
To look for another job when the current jobs pays for your reasonable life,
You have a job, but the job is then the source of daily tension,
You are not married and want to,
You are married and dont want to,
You dont have a kid and want to,
You already havd a kid and a job and a apartment and want one more kid to play with,
But then you have a kid and then that too is difficult for your job,
Your job boosts your ego and not your money,
Your job boosts your money and not your ego,
Your job and housework are not manageable, but still refuse a full time maid although you can afford to,
Your parents are not there after marriage and no one to take care of home,
Your parents are there after marriage, but you want Privacy,
Worth noting, in all these cases it is the bee that has forgotten the door.
It is the same we see, we feel at times in our life.
This is akin to the bee which has entered the house through the open main door.
Bees seem to have something like human minds, exactly the same kind of stupidity. The doors may be open, but if a bee is inside the room, caught inside the room... and she may have come from the open door but she will try to get out from the closed window and the more she tries, the more desperate she becomes, because there is no way to get through the ceiling or through the wall or through the closed window. And in that desperation, frustration he becomes more and more blind, afraid, scared. He loses all intelligence. And the same is the case with human beings.
We often get into the room through the open door and then forget the very door through which we entered it. Then we end up like the bee - blind, afraid, scared.
So remember yourself in this room when in tension when:
The 21K Blackberry is paper weight,
The 25K Tab has been stolen,
The fight is on for the black belt,
And the tension on for continuing it or not to a year later,
To upgrade from the small to the Big car above your budget and unable to manage the emi,
To upgrade to the Biggest car and use the small car,
To try and buy the bigger flat, when you are staying at your own smaller house,
To look for another job when the current jobs pays for your reasonable life,
You have a job, but the job is then the source of daily tension,
You are not married and want to,
You are married and dont want to,
You dont have a kid and want to,
You already havd a kid and a job and a apartment and want one more kid to play with,
But then you have a kid and then that too is difficult for your job,
Your job boosts your ego and not your money,
Your job boosts your money and not your ego,
Your job and housework are not manageable, but still refuse a full time maid although you can afford to,
Your parents are not there after marriage and no one to take care of home,
Your parents are there after marriage, but you want Privacy,
Worth noting, in all these cases it is the bee that has forgotten the door.
Friday, September 30, 2011
Is it love or lack of it?
Cant help wonder why between the two lovers, the girl friend does not look with love and feelings into the eyes of another man?
Ever wonder why between the two lovers, the husband does not look with love and feelings into the eyes of another woman?
Hmm worth wondering, worth noting down.
1. Could it be the fear of the conditioning, that a wife is not supposed to have feeling for another man or vice versa?
2. Could be because she loves the better half so much nothing more is needed?
3. Could it be the fear that he might fall in love with the other?
4. Could it be the resignation to the fate of already being in love?
5. Or it could also be the utter laziness of having to work out another relation?
Unlimited could be's. Worth knowing yourself. But then keep it yourself.
Ever wondered, that if the love for the other is strong enough then there is no fear for him or her to not look another person with attachment?
Couldnt it be the lack of confidence that, she might fall in love and then what happens to the other? Or the egos coming into play?
Ever felt the situation where you love your dog so much, but still you see another dog on the road and feel the same compassion towards it? You want to feed it, you want to give it a good scratch when it looks lovingly at you and wags its tail?
Worth wondering. Why the equations change. Worth wondering what was lacking in the human relation, was it confidence in the love that one has to the other? Or is it the society?
If the other, really was true love, then talking on mystical terms, taking everything out that relation would still leave it so full that there is nothing left to be wanting for? For good love is just about reason-less relation.
Cant we be so pure and confident to boldly look at another with love? For we know the love for the partner is the Whole? Couldnt it be the lack of confidence that, she or he might fall in love and then what happens to the other?
The vedanta saying here is worth mentioning - Om Purnamadah purnamidam purnaat purnamudachyate Purnasya purnamaadaaya Purnamevaavasishyate
\\Take out the full from the full and it still remains Full \\
Ever wonder why between the two lovers, the husband does not look with love and feelings into the eyes of another woman?
Hmm worth wondering, worth noting down.
1. Could it be the fear of the conditioning, that a wife is not supposed to have feeling for another man or vice versa?
2. Could be because she loves the better half so much nothing more is needed?
3. Could it be the fear that he might fall in love with the other?
4. Could it be the resignation to the fate of already being in love?
5. Or it could also be the utter laziness of having to work out another relation?
Unlimited could be's. Worth knowing yourself. But then keep it yourself.
Ever wondered, that if the love for the other is strong enough then there is no fear for him or her to not look another person with attachment?
Couldnt it be the lack of confidence that, she might fall in love and then what happens to the other? Or the egos coming into play?
Ever felt the situation where you love your dog so much, but still you see another dog on the road and feel the same compassion towards it? You want to feed it, you want to give it a good scratch when it looks lovingly at you and wags its tail?
Worth wondering. Why the equations change. Worth wondering what was lacking in the human relation, was it confidence in the love that one has to the other? Or is it the society?
If the other, really was true love, then talking on mystical terms, taking everything out that relation would still leave it so full that there is nothing left to be wanting for? For good love is just about reason-less relation.
Cant we be so pure and confident to boldly look at another with love? For we know the love for the partner is the Whole? Couldnt it be the lack of confidence that, she or he might fall in love and then what happens to the other?
The vedanta saying here is worth mentioning - Om Purnamadah purnamidam purnaat purnamudachyate Purnasya purnamaadaaya Purnamevaavasishyate
\\Take out the full from the full and it still remains Full \\
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Be aware, but in a relaxed way
Be aware, but in a relaxed way. Be aware, but without any tension. Attention without any tension. Calm and quiet. Alert, but with no strain. That memory came in the right moment – he relaxed.
The more conscious you are, the more intensely you live. The more conscious you are, the more reality becomes available to you. You EARN reality only through being conscious. When one is absolutely conscious, one is absolutely real.
Just going for a morning walk – if you can walk consciously, this is prayer. There is no need to go to any church. Prayer has no relationship with a church or a temple, prayer has something to do with your quality of awareness. You can do a thing prayerfully, and the thing may be anything, cleaning the floor, cooking the food, washing the clothes, taking a bath, going to sleep.
The more conscious you are, the more intensely you live. The more conscious you are, the more reality becomes available to you. You EARN reality only through being conscious. When one is absolutely conscious, one is absolutely real.
Just going for a morning walk – if you can walk consciously, this is prayer. There is no need to go to any church. Prayer has no relationship with a church or a temple, prayer has something to do with your quality of awareness. You can do a thing prayerfully, and the thing may be anything, cleaning the floor, cooking the food, washing the clothes, taking a bath, going to sleep.
The mind and the bodily functions - learning from animals
Scrappy made his last visit to the vet and immense bodily pain made it reasonable to let go of this body and take up the next. Till the soul left the body, the mind remained, till the mind remained the urine remained within him.
The moment the soul left, the mind left. The moment the mind left, the ego left. The moment the ego left, the fear left. And the moment fear left, the urine left.
I lifted him out to the car with the urine falling out on the way.
So is it the soul that controls the doable bodily functions? Or is it the Mind? Or it should be the ego or hence the fear?
This can be linked to the observation that as babies we urinate irrespective of the time & place. As we grow up, the mind grows and hence the ego and hence the fear, the fear that society would laugh upon us if we did urinate in our pants, and hence the control over doable bodily functions.
So yes, may be the soul is So pure that it is not even bothered about the society functions. Yes the soul might not be responsible for the doable bodily functions.
The moment the soul left, the mind left. The moment the mind left, the ego left. The moment the ego left, the fear left. And the moment fear left, the urine left.
I lifted him out to the car with the urine falling out on the way.
So is it the soul that controls the doable bodily functions? Or is it the Mind? Or it should be the ego or hence the fear?
This can be linked to the observation that as babies we urinate irrespective of the time & place. As we grow up, the mind grows and hence the ego and hence the fear, the fear that society would laugh upon us if we did urinate in our pants, and hence the control over doable bodily functions.
So yes, may be the soul is So pure that it is not even bothered about the society functions. Yes the soul might not be responsible for the doable bodily functions.
Conditioned for ages
When I look inside myself, I catch a glimpse of what seems like centuries of conditioning.
One thing is certain: that you are not part of the conditioning, you are the watcher. There has to be a fixed reference point for the observer to observe the observed. Same concept is felt with 2 men on different trains moving at the same speed observing each other. The confusion is eminent. The dimension is different, the clarity is felt when one of them is unmoving and watching.
For a seeker the same holds good ie when he looks inside and see the centuries of conditioning, be aware..that you are not part of the conditioning, you are the watcher. Why else can you see the same two brothers of a family totally different in their approach to life. One might be and extrovert, a heart driven guy, a let go or leave it attitude whereas the other could be introvert, a mind driven, no its not right - attitude. Why are the basic nature of each individual different although the external factors or circumstances are the same? It could be the conditioning happening across centuries to something and there is a something that is stable, motionless able to observe the moving.
So have strong faith, you are the watcher, watch the observed raising in anger just because a bullet biker with a girl on it raced with the observed. Would this happen to all? I guess not.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to win an argument. Observe the uncompromising need of the observed for making the partner follow your way of thinking and doing - this is right, do this, dont do like that, eat this, wear this, talk to everyone and so on.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to feel that the family would not run without them.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to prove to the society their worth in building a high flying career.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to say, no i will do as i please, even though he would not want to do it.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to even win an argument with their little kid, just because he is the provider? even though he might be wrong.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to win an ego fight even with his 6 month old dog and thrashes it up?
Hmm... observe the observed. Do not think about the logic behind these action for there are no rights and wrongs. Just conditioned people and observer being identified with the conditioned observed. Conditioning's are just like dust which has gathered on the mirror; it can be washed away, and the mirror will come to its purity immediately. No dust can destroy the mirror, it can only hide it. Conditioning's can hide you, but they cannot destroy you. Just as dust can be removed from the mirror, conditioning's can be removed as easily.
Mrs. Goldstein’s frustrated next door neighbor is trying to squeeze some affection out of little Hymie. ”Do you love me, darling?” the neighbor asked Hymie. Little Hymie nodded. ”Then put your arms around me, honey, and give me a great big kiss,” she said. Hymie went on kicking his football. ”How much do you love me, precious?” the neighbor kept on. ”Show me how you would cry if I died,” she urged. ”Die first!” said Hymie running off. Do something. Don’t go on intellectualizing. Children are very clear about their perceptions. What is the point of thinking intellectually that ”If I die, would you cry?” Hymie is absolutely right – ”Die first! And then we will see.” You have to stop thinking about these things. Thinking is not going to lead anywhere. Start meditating, becoming more aware, alert – and then you don’t need my answer. The answer is within you. I am simply saying that which you will find arising within yourself.
One thing is certain: that you are not part of the conditioning, you are the watcher. There has to be a fixed reference point for the observer to observe the observed. Same concept is felt with 2 men on different trains moving at the same speed observing each other. The confusion is eminent. The dimension is different, the clarity is felt when one of them is unmoving and watching.
For a seeker the same holds good ie when he looks inside and see the centuries of conditioning, be aware..that you are not part of the conditioning, you are the watcher. Why else can you see the same two brothers of a family totally different in their approach to life. One might be and extrovert, a heart driven guy, a let go or leave it attitude whereas the other could be introvert, a mind driven, no its not right - attitude. Why are the basic nature of each individual different although the external factors or circumstances are the same? It could be the conditioning happening across centuries to something and there is a something that is stable, motionless able to observe the moving.
So have strong faith, you are the watcher, watch the observed raising in anger just because a bullet biker with a girl on it raced with the observed. Would this happen to all? I guess not.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to win an argument. Observe the uncompromising need of the observed for making the partner follow your way of thinking and doing - this is right, do this, dont do like that, eat this, wear this, talk to everyone and so on.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to feel that the family would not run without them.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to prove to the society their worth in building a high flying career.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to say, no i will do as i please, even though he would not want to do it.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to even win an argument with their little kid, just because he is the provider? even though he might be wrong.
Observe the uncompromising need for the observed to win an ego fight even with his 6 month old dog and thrashes it up?
Hmm... observe the observed. Do not think about the logic behind these action for there are no rights and wrongs. Just conditioned people and observer being identified with the conditioned observed. Conditioning's are just like dust which has gathered on the mirror; it can be washed away, and the mirror will come to its purity immediately. No dust can destroy the mirror, it can only hide it. Conditioning's can hide you, but they cannot destroy you. Just as dust can be removed from the mirror, conditioning's can be removed as easily.
Mrs. Goldstein’s frustrated next door neighbor is trying to squeeze some affection out of little Hymie. ”Do you love me, darling?” the neighbor asked Hymie. Little Hymie nodded. ”Then put your arms around me, honey, and give me a great big kiss,” she said. Hymie went on kicking his football. ”How much do you love me, precious?” the neighbor kept on. ”Show me how you would cry if I died,” she urged. ”Die first!” said Hymie running off. Do something. Don’t go on intellectualizing. Children are very clear about their perceptions. What is the point of thinking intellectually that ”If I die, would you cry?” Hymie is absolutely right – ”Die first! And then we will see.” You have to stop thinking about these things. Thinking is not going to lead anywhere. Start meditating, becoming more aware, alert – and then you don’t need my answer. The answer is within you. I am simply saying that which you will find arising within yourself.
Is it the energy from awareness?
The nights experience was new. I would have slept for 3 hrs and up at 2am for some reason. By 3.30am i was out in the open terrace meditating - chanting, counting, breath awareness. The night was wonderful with the climate just right for it to happen. The deadening silence with occasional flutter of the wings of some birds or the growls of dogs. All these made me smile with joy. When everything is a reason for celebration, everything just makes you smile. At times i got physically uncomfortable with non existent pains and nags. Yes i still have to go some distance. The feeling of intense awareness slowly started dawning, it was as if you where in full awareness of the immediate surrounding, as if its illuminated by a 1000 watt bulb and you were fresh in the moment observing everything.
Time went fast and cold wind started blowing and the mind realized it. I made a move into the terrace room by 5.30am and continued lying down in awareness. Not sure if i dozed off, but all through out this feeling of awareness was with me as if i was observing me sleeping. It wasn't the ultimate for there were breaks and movements and shifts.
Then moved on at 6.30am and took to a jog for 20 minutes. Finally it ended on top of the 45 stairs stadium and the meditation then too was different. Everything felt light and reasonless.
So far at 4pm, there is no signs of sleepiness or tiredness or frustration or tension. Everything feels silent.
The mind anticipated a sleepy observed and got the car to spend the afternoon in. The mind is wrong and is now reason - less.
Time went fast and cold wind started blowing and the mind realized it. I made a move into the terrace room by 5.30am and continued lying down in awareness. Not sure if i dozed off, but all through out this feeling of awareness was with me as if i was observing me sleeping. It wasn't the ultimate for there were breaks and movements and shifts.
Then moved on at 6.30am and took to a jog for 20 minutes. Finally it ended on top of the 45 stairs stadium and the meditation then too was different. Everything felt light and reasonless.
So far at 4pm, there is no signs of sleepiness or tiredness or frustration or tension. Everything feels silent.
The mind anticipated a sleepy observed and got the car to spend the afternoon in. The mind is wrong and is now reason - less.
My Child!
The child is a gift from god. Be respectful to the child... not just loving but respectful also. If there is not respect, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.
All the ideas follow after this. I will bring up My! child like this. My child will be unique, My child will have everything! The very parents who say this actually forget the one important question. Have I given my child the teachings of peace, bliss, tension free, frustration free? For these are the basic inner qualities of the human soul and hence the importance of enlightenment. So the story continues, My child will not marry a christian, My child will not opt for love marriage, My child is good, he will not do any wrong, My child will not lie (now the irony is - right and wrong are just of the mind. Otherwise how would you explain why Lord Krishna had 100 of Gopikas and that we call him Kalla Krishna, how would you explain the Shiva Tantra teachings).
And if you see all these happens because of the feeling of MY child getting magnified. Only because it is MY child. Simple observation, you cannot say my Neighbors child will be so and so. Atleast the present generation, so called learned crowd will not. We do see this also in the olden days, where society of Raja family decides that a girl deep down in one of the branches cannot marry a outer caste guy.
To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.
To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened. then it is a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk of it as a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk for their whole lives about how much they have done. A real mother will never say a single word about doing, and not only that she will not say: she never feels that she has done it. She has enjoyed it; she is obliged to the child. It is not only the birth of the child: simultaneously you are born in a new way, the mother is born.
All the ideas follow after this. I will bring up My! child like this. My child will be unique, My child will have everything! The very parents who say this actually forget the one important question. Have I given my child the teachings of peace, bliss, tension free, frustration free? For these are the basic inner qualities of the human soul and hence the importance of enlightenment. So the story continues, My child will not marry a christian, My child will not opt for love marriage, My child is good, he will not do any wrong, My child will not lie (now the irony is - right and wrong are just of the mind. Otherwise how would you explain why Lord Krishna had 100 of Gopikas and that we call him Kalla Krishna, how would you explain the Shiva Tantra teachings).
And if you see all these happens because of the feeling of MY child getting magnified. Only because it is MY child. Simple observation, you cannot say my Neighbors child will be so and so. Atleast the present generation, so called learned crowd will not. We do see this also in the olden days, where society of Raja family decides that a girl deep down in one of the branches cannot marry a outer caste guy.
To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened, then love becomes possessive; if there is respect, how can you possess? You cannot possess somebody you respect. the very idea is ugly, disrespectful.
To possess a person means to reduce the person to a thing. And once the child is your possession, you are burdened. then it is a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk of it as a duty to be fulfilled, and then mothers talk for their whole lives about how much they have done. A real mother will never say a single word about doing, and not only that she will not say: she never feels that she has done it. She has enjoyed it; she is obliged to the child. It is not only the birth of the child: simultaneously you are born in a new way, the mother is born.
Remember to - Be Useless
So remember, if you ever try this solitary madness, drop the idea of utility. Be useless. Only then can you be alone. Because really, utility has been forced on your mind by society. Society says, ”Be of some utility. Don’t be useless.” Society want you to be an economic unit, a thing, efficient, utilitarian. Society doesn’t want you to be just a flower. No, even if you are a flower then you must be worth being sold. Society needs you to be in the market, you must have some utility. Only then are you of use, otherwise not. Society goes on preaching that use is the goal of life, the purpose of life. This is nonsense. I am not saying be useless. I am saying that this use is not the goal. You have to live in society, to be useful to it, but to remain capable of being useless at any moment. That capacity must be retained otherwise you become a thing and not a person. When you move into solitariness, aloneness, this will become a problem. You will feel yourself useless.
I have been working with many people. Sometimes I suggest that they go for three weeks or three months into total loneliness, silence. And I tell them that after seven days they will want to come back and their mind will find all the reasons for not being there so that they can come back. I tell
them not to listen to those arguments and to make it a point that for the time they have decided upon they will not leave. They say to me that they are going of their own will, so why should they leave? I tell them that they don’t know themselves. This will not be there for more than three to seven days; afterwards they will long to return, because society has become alcoholic, it is an intoxicant. In
sober moments you can think about being alone, but when you are alone, within three days you will think, ”What am I doing?” Remember, use is for society. Society uses you and you use society. This is a reciprocal relationship.
But life is not for use. It is non-utilitarian, purposeless, it is a play, a celebration. So when you move into solitariness to do this technique, be prepared from the very beginning that you are going to be useless, and enjoy it, don’t feel sad about it. You cannot conceive of what arguments the mind will bring. You will say, ”The world is in such trouble and you are sitting in silence here. Look what is
happening in Vietnam and what is happening in Pakistan and what is happening in China; and your country is dying, there is no food, there is no water. What are you doing here meditation? What is the use? Will it bring socialism to the country?” Mind will bring beautiful arguments; mind is the great arguer. It is the Devil – it will try to persuade you, it will convince you that you are wasting time.
But don’t listen to it. From the very beginning be prepared, ”I am going to waste time. I will not be of any use. I will simply enjoy being here.”
And don’t be concerned with the world. The world goes on. It is always in trouble. It has been always in trouble and it will remain always in trouble. That is the way of the world. You cannot do anything so don’t try to be a great world reformer, a revolutionary, a messiah. Don’t try.
You simply be yourself and enjoy your solitariness, just like a rock or a tree or a river. Useless! What is the use of a rock just lying there under the rains, under the sun, under the stars? What is the use of this rock? No use – the rock enjoys itself being that way. Just be a rock. There are rock gardens
in Japan, in Zen monasteries; they make rock gardens particularly for this. There are no trees in the garden, just sand and rock. A solitary rock, just sits there, and the master says to the disciple, ”Go,
and be just a rock, just like that rock. Don’t be bothered about the world. That rock remains there whatsoever happens to the world. It is not worried. It is always in meditation.”
Unless you are really prepared to be useless, you cannot be solitary, you cannot be in solitude.
And once you know the depth of it you can come back to society. You must come back because
solitariness is not a style of life – it is just a training. It is not a way of life, it is just a deep relaxation to change the perspective. It is just falling out of step with society to have a look at yourself, who you are, alone. So don’t think that this is a style of life. Many have made it a style of life. They are
in error. They are absolutely in error. They have made a medicine food. It is not a style of life, it is just medicinal. You fall out for a time being just to have a perspective, a distance, to see what you are and what society is doing to you. When you are out of it, you can have a better look. You can observe. Without being concerned, without being in it, you can become an observer from the hilltop,
you can become a witness. You are so far away. Unprejudiced, undisturbed, you can look.
So note it, this is not a way of life. I am not saying leave the world and become hermits somewherein the Himalayas – no. But sometimes leave, relax, be useless, be alone, exist like a rock, be independent, free from the world, be a part of nature – and you will be rejuvenated, reborn. Then
come back and move in society and in the crowd again. And try to carry that beauty, that silence that happened to you when you were alone. Now carry it, don’t lose contact with it. Move deep into the crowd but don’t become a part of it. Let the crowd be there outside you – you remain alone.
I have been working with many people. Sometimes I suggest that they go for three weeks or three months into total loneliness, silence. And I tell them that after seven days they will want to come back and their mind will find all the reasons for not being there so that they can come back. I tell
them not to listen to those arguments and to make it a point that for the time they have decided upon they will not leave. They say to me that they are going of their own will, so why should they leave? I tell them that they don’t know themselves. This will not be there for more than three to seven days; afterwards they will long to return, because society has become alcoholic, it is an intoxicant. In
sober moments you can think about being alone, but when you are alone, within three days you will think, ”What am I doing?” Remember, use is for society. Society uses you and you use society. This is a reciprocal relationship.
But life is not for use. It is non-utilitarian, purposeless, it is a play, a celebration. So when you move into solitariness to do this technique, be prepared from the very beginning that you are going to be useless, and enjoy it, don’t feel sad about it. You cannot conceive of what arguments the mind will bring. You will say, ”The world is in such trouble and you are sitting in silence here. Look what is
happening in Vietnam and what is happening in Pakistan and what is happening in China; and your country is dying, there is no food, there is no water. What are you doing here meditation? What is the use? Will it bring socialism to the country?” Mind will bring beautiful arguments; mind is the great arguer. It is the Devil – it will try to persuade you, it will convince you that you are wasting time.
But don’t listen to it. From the very beginning be prepared, ”I am going to waste time. I will not be of any use. I will simply enjoy being here.”
And don’t be concerned with the world. The world goes on. It is always in trouble. It has been always in trouble and it will remain always in trouble. That is the way of the world. You cannot do anything so don’t try to be a great world reformer, a revolutionary, a messiah. Don’t try.
You simply be yourself and enjoy your solitariness, just like a rock or a tree or a river. Useless! What is the use of a rock just lying there under the rains, under the sun, under the stars? What is the use of this rock? No use – the rock enjoys itself being that way. Just be a rock. There are rock gardens
in Japan, in Zen monasteries; they make rock gardens particularly for this. There are no trees in the garden, just sand and rock. A solitary rock, just sits there, and the master says to the disciple, ”Go,
and be just a rock, just like that rock. Don’t be bothered about the world. That rock remains there whatsoever happens to the world. It is not worried. It is always in meditation.”
Unless you are really prepared to be useless, you cannot be solitary, you cannot be in solitude.
And once you know the depth of it you can come back to society. You must come back because
solitariness is not a style of life – it is just a training. It is not a way of life, it is just a deep relaxation to change the perspective. It is just falling out of step with society to have a look at yourself, who you are, alone. So don’t think that this is a style of life. Many have made it a style of life. They are
in error. They are absolutely in error. They have made a medicine food. It is not a style of life, it is just medicinal. You fall out for a time being just to have a perspective, a distance, to see what you are and what society is doing to you. When you are out of it, you can have a better look. You can observe. Without being concerned, without being in it, you can become an observer from the hilltop,
you can become a witness. You are so far away. Unprejudiced, undisturbed, you can look.
So note it, this is not a way of life. I am not saying leave the world and become hermits somewherein the Himalayas – no. But sometimes leave, relax, be useless, be alone, exist like a rock, be independent, free from the world, be a part of nature – and you will be rejuvenated, reborn. Then
come back and move in society and in the crowd again. And try to carry that beauty, that silence that happened to you when you were alone. Now carry it, don’t lose contact with it. Move deep into the crowd but don’t become a part of it. Let the crowd be there outside you – you remain alone.
The inside is trembling, but they will go - if u meet it
Those who go into deep silence and solitude, they always ask me, ”There will be fear, so what to do?” I tell them not to do anything, just to live the fear. If trembling comes, tremble, why prevent it?
If an inner fear is there, and you are shaking with it, so shake with it. Don’t do anything. Allow it to happen. It will go by itself. If you avoid it – and you can avoid it. You can start chanting Ram, Ram,Ram; you can cling to a mantra so that your mind is diverted. You will be pacified and the fear will not be there – you have pushed it into the unconscious. It was coming out – which was good, you
were going to be free from it – it was leaving you and when it leaves you, you will tremble. That is natural because from every cell of the body, of the mind, some energy which has always been there pushed down, is leaving. There will be a shaking, a trembling; it will be just like an earthquake. The whole soul will be disturbed by it but let it be. Don’t do anything. That is my advice. Don’t even
chant the name of Ram. Don’t try to do anything with it because all that you can do will again be suppression. Just by allowing it to be, by letting it be, it will leave you – and when it has left, you will be altogether a different man.
The cyclone has gone and you will now be centered, centered as you never were before. And once you know the art of letting things be, you will know one of the master keys which opens all the inner doors. Then whatsoever the case is, let it be, don’t avoid it.
All different methods to trick the mind. So when i say this technique - this feels right and when i say Soham that technique feels right. But yes - above all Be Aware of what is happening within, search within if Soham is hiding something within? It was.
If an inner fear is there, and you are shaking with it, so shake with it. Don’t do anything. Allow it to happen. It will go by itself. If you avoid it – and you can avoid it. You can start chanting Ram, Ram,Ram; you can cling to a mantra so that your mind is diverted. You will be pacified and the fear will not be there – you have pushed it into the unconscious. It was coming out – which was good, you
were going to be free from it – it was leaving you and when it leaves you, you will tremble. That is natural because from every cell of the body, of the mind, some energy which has always been there pushed down, is leaving. There will be a shaking, a trembling; it will be just like an earthquake. The whole soul will be disturbed by it but let it be. Don’t do anything. That is my advice. Don’t even
chant the name of Ram. Don’t try to do anything with it because all that you can do will again be suppression. Just by allowing it to be, by letting it be, it will leave you – and when it has left, you will be altogether a different man.
The cyclone has gone and you will now be centered, centered as you never were before. And once you know the art of letting things be, you will know one of the master keys which opens all the inner doors. Then whatsoever the case is, let it be, don’t avoid it.
All different methods to trick the mind. So when i say this technique - this feels right and when i say Soham that technique feels right. But yes - above all Be Aware of what is happening within, search within if Soham is hiding something within? It was.
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Possession!
There is nothing worse than this that you can do, that you are capable of: reducing a being to a thing. And that's what possession is. Only things can be possessed; beings cannot be possessed.
You can have a communion with a being, not with a thing. Thats what we face now.. husband does not have communion with wife, mother does not have communion with kid, father does not have communion with son. Why? because it is not possible to have communion with a thing. The other has now become a possession... a thing. Hence the communion lacks.
The only sacred space in the true sense is the privacy of a person -- his or her independence, the beinghood. If you love a person you will never trespass.
They don't want the other person to have any privacy. Why? If the person has independence, privacy, individuality, they are afraid. The person tomorrow may not love them -- because love is not something stagnant. It is a moment, it is nothing to do with permanency. It may continue for eternity, but basically love is a phenomenon of the moment. If it happens again in the next moment you are blessed. If it does not happen you should be thankful that at least it did happen before.
Remain open: perhaps it may happen again -- if not with this person, then with another person. The question is not persons, the question is of love. Love should remain flowing, it should not be stopped. But in their stupidity people start thinking, "If this person goes out of my hands then I am going to starve my whole life without love." And he does not know that by trying to hold this person permanently in his captivity, he will starve. He will not get love. You cannot get love from a slave.
You cannot get love from your possessions; from your chair, table, house, your furniture, you cannot get love. So now it makes sense why we dont get love from someone you want to possess! Because you have reduced it to a thing. You can get love only from a free agent whose uniqueness is respected by you, whose freedom is respected by you. It is out of the freedom of the other that this moment of love has happened. Don't destroy it by trying to possess, by trying to hold, by creating a legal bondage, a marriage. Let the other be free, and remain free yourself. Don't let anybody else possess you either.
You can have a communion with a being, not with a thing. Thats what we face now.. husband does not have communion with wife, mother does not have communion with kid, father does not have communion with son. Why? because it is not possible to have communion with a thing. The other has now become a possession... a thing. Hence the communion lacks.
The only sacred space in the true sense is the privacy of a person -- his or her independence, the beinghood. If you love a person you will never trespass.
They don't want the other person to have any privacy. Why? If the person has independence, privacy, individuality, they are afraid. The person tomorrow may not love them -- because love is not something stagnant. It is a moment, it is nothing to do with permanency. It may continue for eternity, but basically love is a phenomenon of the moment. If it happens again in the next moment you are blessed. If it does not happen you should be thankful that at least it did happen before.
Remain open: perhaps it may happen again -- if not with this person, then with another person. The question is not persons, the question is of love. Love should remain flowing, it should not be stopped. But in their stupidity people start thinking, "If this person goes out of my hands then I am going to starve my whole life without love." And he does not know that by trying to hold this person permanently in his captivity, he will starve. He will not get love. You cannot get love from a slave.
You cannot get love from your possessions; from your chair, table, house, your furniture, you cannot get love. So now it makes sense why we dont get love from someone you want to possess! Because you have reduced it to a thing. You can get love only from a free agent whose uniqueness is respected by you, whose freedom is respected by you. It is out of the freedom of the other that this moment of love has happened. Don't destroy it by trying to possess, by trying to hold, by creating a legal bondage, a marriage. Let the other be free, and remain free yourself. Don't let anybody else possess you either.
Friday, July 8, 2011
Bring a child into this world? Is that all that is to be considered?
Abortion?
This will be a momentary sadness. If you want to become a mother then you want to get into deeper troubles, because it is not a question that can be easily solved once the child is there. I don’t think that you are ready to become a mother right now. But if you want to become one, that’s your choice, mm? — that’s your choice. But then you have to take the consequences also.
Otherwise, everyday it happens, some sannyasin comes with two, three children, and they want…. Now what to do with those children? — somebody has to take care of them. The mother cannot have her own growth, she cannot work; she has to take care of the children. And then there are complications.
Once you have finished your growth-work then it is perfectly good. A child should be a leisure thing, mm? it should be the last luxury. Then you can treat yourself by being a mother, otherwise it will create complications. So you decide. Nobody is forcing you, it is for you to decide: if you want to become a mother then you want to become a mother. But then take the consequences also.
People are not aware of what they are doing when they want to bring a child into the world. Otherwise they will feel sorry about that, rather than feeling sorry about an abortion. Just think of both the possibilities: what will you give to the child? What have you got to give to the child?
You will bring your tensions into his being and he will repeat the same kind of life as yours. He will go to the psychoanalyst, he will go to the psychiatrist, and his whole life will be a problem — just as it is with everybody. What right have you to bring a soul into the world when you cannot give the person a whole and healthy being? It is a crime! People think otherwise: they think abortion is a crime. But the child will find some other mother, because nothing dies. And there are many, many women who will be happy to have the child; it is just that you will not be responsible for it.
I am not saying not to become a mother; I am saying become a mother, but be aware that becoming a mother is a great art, it is a great achievement. First create that quality, that creativity, in you, that joy, that celebration, and then invite the child. Then you will have something to give to the child — your celebration, your song, your dance — and you will not create a pathological being. The world is already too crowded with pathological beings. Let some other planet suffer! Why this earth? In fact right now to think in terms of bringing a child is really criminal. The world is overcrowded. If a person has a little awareness, he will not bring a child into it at any cost; he will sacrifice his motherhood and fatherhood. The world is starving, people are dying and food is not there, the whole ecology is disturbed and life is going to be more and more ugly and hellish; this is not the right time.
And even if you think that it is okay, that the world will look after itself, they will find some way, you still have to think about your child. Are you ready to be a mother? — that is the thing. And I don’t mean by being ready to be a mother: are you ready to become pregnant. That is not being ready to be a mother; any woman can become pregnant. Pregnancy is not equivalent to motherhood. Pregnancy is a biological phenomenon. Every girl, a healthy girl, physically healthy, is able to become pregnant; but just because you can conceive it doesn’t mean you have to have a child. Just think of many other things: you have to give a psychological womb to the child, a spiritual womb to the child. Is it ready? If it is ready, if you think it is ready, go ahead: have a child.
I will start telling my people to have children, but let me prepare my people first. Then you will be happy to have a child and the child will be happy that he was fortunate to have a mother like you. Otherwise just go to any psychiatrist and ask ‘What are people’s problems?’ They can be reduced to one thing: the mother. You ask [the Primal therapist here tonight], you ask our therapists, ‘What is the problem with people?’ All problems can be reduced to the mother, because the mother was not capable of giving a psychological womb, the mother was not capable of giving a spiritual womb. Psychologically she was neurotic, spiritually she was empty, so there was no spiritual food for the child, no nourishment. The child comes into the world as a physical being, without a soul, without any centre. The mother was not centred; how can the child be centred? The child is simply a continuation, a continuity of the mother’s being.
You are young so there is no hurry. You can become pregnant again; there is no problem in it. But still, if you feel, ‘No, this abortion is going to be very bad for me’, have the child. I can only suggest, there is no order in it. Finally you have to decide on your own. Nobody can ever throw responsibility on me because these are just suggestions. Take it or leave it; that is up to you. And you are always responsible. If you take my advice, then you are responsible; if you don’t take it, you are still responsible. I am just outside it.
For me it is perfectly good, whether you become a mother or not is not a problem for me. But one should see all the implications of it. If one sees all the implications of it, very few people will decide to become fathers and mothers. And it would be a better world if fewer people decided to be mothers and fathers. It would be less crowded, less neurotic, less pathological, less crazy. Think about it. And don’t be worried, just think; there is no hurry. For three days think, and then come to a decision and do whatsoever you feel.
This will be a momentary sadness. If you want to become a mother then you want to get into deeper troubles, because it is not a question that can be easily solved once the child is there. I don’t think that you are ready to become a mother right now. But if you want to become one, that’s your choice, mm? — that’s your choice. But then you have to take the consequences also.
Otherwise, everyday it happens, some sannyasin comes with two, three children, and they want…. Now what to do with those children? — somebody has to take care of them. The mother cannot have her own growth, she cannot work; she has to take care of the children. And then there are complications.
Once you have finished your growth-work then it is perfectly good. A child should be a leisure thing, mm? it should be the last luxury. Then you can treat yourself by being a mother, otherwise it will create complications. So you decide. Nobody is forcing you, it is for you to decide: if you want to become a mother then you want to become a mother. But then take the consequences also.
People are not aware of what they are doing when they want to bring a child into the world. Otherwise they will feel sorry about that, rather than feeling sorry about an abortion. Just think of both the possibilities: what will you give to the child? What have you got to give to the child?
You will bring your tensions into his being and he will repeat the same kind of life as yours. He will go to the psychoanalyst, he will go to the psychiatrist, and his whole life will be a problem — just as it is with everybody. What right have you to bring a soul into the world when you cannot give the person a whole and healthy being? It is a crime! People think otherwise: they think abortion is a crime. But the child will find some other mother, because nothing dies. And there are many, many women who will be happy to have the child; it is just that you will not be responsible for it.
I am not saying not to become a mother; I am saying become a mother, but be aware that becoming a mother is a great art, it is a great achievement. First create that quality, that creativity, in you, that joy, that celebration, and then invite the child. Then you will have something to give to the child — your celebration, your song, your dance — and you will not create a pathological being. The world is already too crowded with pathological beings. Let some other planet suffer! Why this earth? In fact right now to think in terms of bringing a child is really criminal. The world is overcrowded. If a person has a little awareness, he will not bring a child into it at any cost; he will sacrifice his motherhood and fatherhood. The world is starving, people are dying and food is not there, the whole ecology is disturbed and life is going to be more and more ugly and hellish; this is not the right time.
And even if you think that it is okay, that the world will look after itself, they will find some way, you still have to think about your child. Are you ready to be a mother? — that is the thing. And I don’t mean by being ready to be a mother: are you ready to become pregnant. That is not being ready to be a mother; any woman can become pregnant. Pregnancy is not equivalent to motherhood. Pregnancy is a biological phenomenon. Every girl, a healthy girl, physically healthy, is able to become pregnant; but just because you can conceive it doesn’t mean you have to have a child. Just think of many other things: you have to give a psychological womb to the child, a spiritual womb to the child. Is it ready? If it is ready, if you think it is ready, go ahead: have a child.
I will start telling my people to have children, but let me prepare my people first. Then you will be happy to have a child and the child will be happy that he was fortunate to have a mother like you. Otherwise just go to any psychiatrist and ask ‘What are people’s problems?’ They can be reduced to one thing: the mother. You ask [the Primal therapist here tonight], you ask our therapists, ‘What is the problem with people?’ All problems can be reduced to the mother, because the mother was not capable of giving a psychological womb, the mother was not capable of giving a spiritual womb. Psychologically she was neurotic, spiritually she was empty, so there was no spiritual food for the child, no nourishment. The child comes into the world as a physical being, without a soul, without any centre. The mother was not centred; how can the child be centred? The child is simply a continuation, a continuity of the mother’s being.
You are young so there is no hurry. You can become pregnant again; there is no problem in it. But still, if you feel, ‘No, this abortion is going to be very bad for me’, have the child. I can only suggest, there is no order in it. Finally you have to decide on your own. Nobody can ever throw responsibility on me because these are just suggestions. Take it or leave it; that is up to you. And you are always responsible. If you take my advice, then you are responsible; if you don’t take it, you are still responsible. I am just outside it.
For me it is perfectly good, whether you become a mother or not is not a problem for me. But one should see all the implications of it. If one sees all the implications of it, very few people will decide to become fathers and mothers. And it would be a better world if fewer people decided to be mothers and fathers. It would be less crowded, less neurotic, less pathological, less crazy. Think about it. And don’t be worried, just think; there is no hurry. For three days think, and then come to a decision and do whatsoever you feel.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Samarpannam - a meditation technique
This technique works well when the burn is felt within. The burn - usually is a by product of ego, which is a by product of mind. When ego is there the burn has to be felt by each. Burn within may seem to be caused by various colors like revenge, emotional disturbance, argument, comparison, love (so called). People mistake these to be the reasons for the Burn. But on exposing the roots, the real problem appears to be the same mind and hence ego and hence these.
Start chanting a favorite mantra with full awareness. The mantra usually needs to give awareness of something before which you can stand exposed, before which you can give up, before which you can bow, before which you become insignificant. If it is OOm Ganapathaye Namaha, OOm Vigneshwaraya Namaha - the chanting goes on uninterrupted and with full awareness of the deity which should appear to dwell withing our spiritual heart center. Remember to keep full awareness on this heart center. The idea is a shift from the Head center to the heart center. As the chanting progresses mentally visualize the hand offering something from the heart center to the deity with an attitude of Samarpanam - ie Offering. This has to continue through the days. Feel a total offering of the heaviness at the heart center to the Superior what you have chosen.
Remember to continue this through the day. The more hours you spend in awareness of this technique, the more effect if brings. Usually observed is we tend to give up this meditation in an hour or so. So let the ego decide first that, I will do this technique for the whole of today. 'I' take it as a challenge. And finally the boat has to dropped like budha says. Once you cross the river, the boat has to be dropped. So finally as the mediation gains power, you drop the 'I' ness with awareness. Use the 'I'ness for killing the 'I'ness.
Start chanting a favorite mantra with full awareness. The mantra usually needs to give awareness of something before which you can stand exposed, before which you can give up, before which you can bow, before which you become insignificant. If it is OOm Ganapathaye Namaha, OOm Vigneshwaraya Namaha - the chanting goes on uninterrupted and with full awareness of the deity which should appear to dwell withing our spiritual heart center. Remember to keep full awareness on this heart center. The idea is a shift from the Head center to the heart center. As the chanting progresses mentally visualize the hand offering something from the heart center to the deity with an attitude of Samarpanam - ie Offering. This has to continue through the days. Feel a total offering of the heaviness at the heart center to the Superior what you have chosen.
Remember to continue this through the day. The more hours you spend in awareness of this technique, the more effect if brings. Usually observed is we tend to give up this meditation in an hour or so. So let the ego decide first that, I will do this technique for the whole of today. 'I' take it as a challenge. And finally the boat has to dropped like budha says. Once you cross the river, the boat has to be dropped. So finally as the mediation gains power, you drop the 'I' ness with awareness. Use the 'I'ness for killing the 'I'ness.
Do you understand now?” And the whole ridiculousness of it!
It happened once that when Bokoju met his Master and asked something about Buddha, the Master took him physically and threw him out of the window… from a three-storey building. The poor fellow fell down on a rock, smashed, and the Master was looking from the window and he asked, “Do you understand now?” And the whole ridiculousness of it!
And the silence of the garden. And the silence of the accident. The shock. And the Master’s smiling face, and those compassionate eyes, and his asking, “Now do you understand?”
And in that moment, Bokoju became enlightened. He said, “Yes, yes, Master. Can I come in and touch your feet in gratitude?”
“You are welcome,” the Master said, “to have a cup of tea with me.”
And they are sipping tea together.
Gurdjieff used to say that mind is very slow in action, and he is right. The body is far quicker. Mind is very lethargic; it goes on round and round in circles. So whenever there is some urgency, then your existence does not allow your mind to go round and round through logical processes to come to a conclusion, because then it will be too late.
One Zen Master had this habit that whenever he would talk of God, of Buddha, of the higher dimensions of life, he would raise one of his fingers towards the sky. It became so characteristic of him that one of his small sannyasins, a young boy — must have been of the age of Siddhartha — became very much interested in this one finger pointing upwards. And he was always in attendance just to do something for the Master — if he needs some tea, to run and bring the tea, or just to be by his side and to help him to get rid of the mosquitoes.
He learnt the trick, and playfully, whenever the Master was not looking at him, he would show one finger to the audience. The Master knew — people would laugh, or smile and he would know who was doing the whole trick.
One day — and this can be done only by a Zen Master — he simply caught hold of the child when he was making the gesture of one finger pointing to heaven, and cut the finger with a sharp knife. Now, just think of doing such a thing to poor Siddhartha….
The child cried, screamed, and the Master said, “Stop! And put the finger up!” And his shout was such, it was such a thunderlike shout, that the child forgot all about his finger, that it had been cut and blood was oozing, and he showed the finger which was NO more there, because the Master had ordered.
And in that moment when he was showing a finger which was no more there, he became aware of the invisible; the Master was not pointing to something visible, but something invisible. And the child started laughing, and the Master took him into his embrace and said, “You have understood.” And it is said that small child had his first satori. Later on became a famous enlightened Master.
And the silence of the garden. And the silence of the accident. The shock. And the Master’s smiling face, and those compassionate eyes, and his asking, “Now do you understand?”
And in that moment, Bokoju became enlightened. He said, “Yes, yes, Master. Can I come in and touch your feet in gratitude?”
“You are welcome,” the Master said, “to have a cup of tea with me.”
And they are sipping tea together.
Gurdjieff used to say that mind is very slow in action, and he is right. The body is far quicker. Mind is very lethargic; it goes on round and round in circles. So whenever there is some urgency, then your existence does not allow your mind to go round and round through logical processes to come to a conclusion, because then it will be too late.
One Zen Master had this habit that whenever he would talk of God, of Buddha, of the higher dimensions of life, he would raise one of his fingers towards the sky. It became so characteristic of him that one of his small sannyasins, a young boy — must have been of the age of Siddhartha — became very much interested in this one finger pointing upwards. And he was always in attendance just to do something for the Master — if he needs some tea, to run and bring the tea, or just to be by his side and to help him to get rid of the mosquitoes.
He learnt the trick, and playfully, whenever the Master was not looking at him, he would show one finger to the audience. The Master knew — people would laugh, or smile and he would know who was doing the whole trick.
One day — and this can be done only by a Zen Master — he simply caught hold of the child when he was making the gesture of one finger pointing to heaven, and cut the finger with a sharp knife. Now, just think of doing such a thing to poor Siddhartha….
The child cried, screamed, and the Master said, “Stop! And put the finger up!” And his shout was such, it was such a thunderlike shout, that the child forgot all about his finger, that it had been cut and blood was oozing, and he showed the finger which was NO more there, because the Master had ordered.
And in that moment when he was showing a finger which was no more there, he became aware of the invisible; the Master was not pointing to something visible, but something invisible. And the child started laughing, and the Master took him into his embrace and said, “You have understood.” And it is said that small child had his first satori. Later on became a famous enlightened Master.
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